The clocks going back this weekend officially signals the end of British Summer Time. The longer nights will have a profound effect on our emotional states. According to IllicitEncounters.com the number of people seeking to embark on extra-marital relationships rises significantly during the winter months.
Research has shown that 1 in 5 people suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder. During the winter months, symptoms including lack of energy,withdrawal from friends, family, and social activities and decreased sexual interest in their partner can all lead to depression and lack of pleasure. People suffering from this might seek an extra-marital affair as a way to counter-act the effects of S.A.D.
When people are having, or pursuing an affair, they take greater pains to appear attractive, to take care of their bodies and consequently are healthier. They are having sex more, getting more exercise, and physiologically behaving in ways contrary to the lethargy and inactivity associated with most depression. IllicitEncounters.com see on average 25% higher levels of activity during the winter months compared with the rest of the year.
Infidelity as a means to combat depression is not a new phenomenon. In the 19th century, Madame Germaine de Stael, a French political writer and vocal opponent of Napoleon, suffered severe depression throughout most of her life and used extramarital sex as a way deal with her condition. Whilst suffering from depression she engaged in active and aggressive adultery, entering into sexual encounters with several different men. As a humorous and politically insightful woman she attracted men with ease, and used a string of lovers to help uplift herself from depression. In a letter she wrote, to explain why she had taken yet another lover, “a sort of excitement that would relieve for a moment the terrible weight that was pressing on my heart.”
There are not just psychological benefits in having more sex. Women may be getting something else that can help fight depression, semen. Research conducted by Gallup and Burch reveals that men have a secret chemical weapon. Semen is shown to contain high levels of psychoactive hormones and substances such as testosterone (which can increase a woman’s libido), as well as other neurochemicals such as; norepinephrine, vasopressin, oxytocin, melatonin, epinephrine and other opioids. All of which have a detectable impact upon mood.
Neurochemically, the brain reacts to a new sexual relationship with a tremendous flood of powerful substances that affect mood and energy. Across many different physiological and psychological dimensions, a woman beginning a new relationship experiences an increase in feelings of pleasure, excitement, energy, and interest in life and her new lover.
IllicitEncounters.com spokesperson Rosie Freeman-Jones said; “It is highly probable that men and women are signing up and engaging in extramarital relationships as a result of seasonal affective disorder caused by the onset of longer nights, in an unconscious attempt to overcome those feelings, using one of the most powerful biological weapons available to them, Sex!”
IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s largest and longest running dating site for married people.
Established in 2003, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 10 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.
Women Who Stray – Notes on the history and current practice of female infidelity by David J. Ley, Ph.D.