Women want sex while men just want to talk, reveals new survey


A new study by leading extra-marital dating site IllicitEncounters.com has revealed that women are more likely to look for an affair in order to fulfil physical desires, whilst men are looking to make deep emotional connections. The results of the study questioning over 5,789 plus female members shows 72% joined the site because they were unsatisfied with the level of physical intimacy they receive currently within their relationship. Surprisingly, of the majority of the 4,326 plus men questioned, 68% are looking for an emotional or intellectual connection with an illicit lover, rather than just a purely physical one.

Spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com Mike Taylor said: “People who join Illicit Encounters are all looking for that something missing from their current relationship. For some – the physical side of the relationship is no longer satisfying, for others it’s a total breakdown in communication, while many are craving an intellectual counterpart. The interesting result of this survey is it’s women who are motivated to join due to of a lack of physical intimacy with their partner, rather than a lack of an emotional connection – whereas classically it’s the guys who are viewed as sexually more driven. The roles of females in society have, and still are, massively evolving, and I think this study is only the tip of the iceberg in that sense.”

One female member, Sophia from London, commented: “I joined the website after my relationship broke down with my husband and he was no longer attracted to me, we still get on great as friends and I am not looking to replace him, but I also need to feel wanted and sexually desirable for my self confidence and personal needs.”

Women today are more career focused, ambitious and independent than ever so they are certainly not going to sit back and do nothing if their sex life is failing – they take the lead and go after what they want. Today’s man is more in tune and open about his mental needs in order to be happy. It’s not longer a taboo for men to express their sensitive side, the need to feel appreciated and stimulated mentally – and in a failing marriage it’s the guys who are longing to connect with a female who understands them as a whole person.


The UK’s Leading married dating website IllicitEncounters.com

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s largest and longest running dating site for married people. With over 850,000 members across the UK, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2003, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 10 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

For comments, case-studies or more information contact Mike Taylor:

Email: Mike@illicitencounters.co.uk

Mobile: 07584 435116

Office: 020 7953 7167

Twitter: @illicitmike

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