“I’m just not ready for commitment yet” – most popular line women use to dump a partner, according to new research
* Second most popular is “This is going too fast for me” and “We’re just not a good match” is third;
* The top answer men use for ending a relationship with a woman is the much more brutal: “It’s just not working;”
* Women are more concerned about softening the blowing and not hurting their partner’s feelings;
* Men are more likely to highlight poor sex and lack of physical compatibility in their answers;
* The answers are from a new poll of 1,000 people by Britain’s biggest extra-marital dating site, IllicitEncounters.com
Women have revealed their ten favourite lines for telling a partner a relationship is over and the top answer is: “I’m just not ready for commitment yet.”
The second most popular line is “This is going to fast for me” and the third is: “We’re just not a good match.”
The results show that women are far more sensitive then men when it comes to ending a relationship.
The top answer for men ending a relationship with a woman is the far more brutal: “It’s just not working.”
In second place for men is “I’ve met someone else” and “I’m not attracted to you any more” is third.
The results are revealed in a new survey of 1,000 people by Britain’s biggest extra-marital affairs dating site, IllicitEncounters.com.
Women are more concerned about softening the blow and coming up with reasons for the break-up which hide their lover’s failings.
Men are far more likely to tell it straight and say exactly why they want to end it, even if that involves admitting they have met someone else.
Poor sex and lack physical compatibility were far more important to men than women in the reasons they give for ending a relationship.
Women are more likely than men to end a relationship face-to-face but both sexes are increasingly using email and even text to tell a lover they are history.
Just over half of women (52%) would meet a partner to say the relationship is over, while fewer than half of men (43%) would break the news in person.
A third of women prefer to end a relationship over the phone (27%), 15% have done it by email and 8% have done it by text.
Men are more likely to give the bad news electronically – 21% of men have dumped a partner by email and 19% have done it by text, while just 17% prefer to do it on the phone.
llicitEncounters.com spokesman Christian Grant said that increasing numbers of online daters jump quickly from one relationship to the next.
He said: “They meet someone they like, have some fun and then quickly moved on. If you are going to be a success dating online you have to learn how to end a relationship without causing too much fuss.
“Men could learn a lot from women in the art of letting a partner now gently. Women far more likely to find euphemisms to sweeten the pill – saying it is a ‘relationship’ failure rather than being down to the man’s failings.
“Men have much less imagination and just tell women straight what has gone wrong.”
Every week, around 20,000 people in the UK are having affairs on IllicitEncounters.com.
The average income of the men on the site is £54,000 a year, with most working in professional jobs.
The most popular answers for ending a relationship
1 I am not ready for commitment yet.
2 This is going too fast for me.
3 We’re not a good match.
4 We want different things.
5 I need to concentrate on my career.
6 I don’t like your friends or family.
7 It’s just not working.
8 You are not mature enough.
9 We have not got enough in common.
10 I don’t trust you.
1 It’s just not working.
2 I’ve met someone else.
3 I’m not attracted to you any more.
4 We’ve lost that sexual spark.
5 It’s not you, it’s me.
6 I need to concentrate on my career.
7 We want different things.
8 I don’t want to see you any more.
9 I am not ready for commitment yet.
10 We have not got enough in common.
How to tell a partner they are dumped
1 Face to face – 52%
2 Over the phone – 27%
3 By email – 15%
4 By text – 8%
1 Face to face – 43%
2 Email – 21%
3 By text – 19%
4 Over the phone 17%
NOTES TO EDITOR
IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading and longest running dating site for married people. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.
Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 10 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.
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