- 8% of married people admitted to getting married even though they were already having an affair; the majority (64%) were men
- 55% said that they began to care deeply for both people so decided to pursue both relationships
- 27% continued their affair for at least a year into the marriage, with 5% pursuing the affair for 5 years or more
- The research raises several salient points, such as whether some people are born with a natural propensity to cheat
- The survey of over 900 married people is brought to you by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people
Who can you trust? Not your spouse, possibly. New research from IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity, surveyed over 900 of their members to find that 8% admitted to getting married even though they were already having an affair.
As for the reasons why the adulterers in question chose not to break off their affairs, over half (55%) claimed that they began to care deeply for both people and were met with indecision, so they decided to continue to pursue both relationships in order to have the best of both worlds.
23% were worried that their fellow adulterer could potentially tell their wife or husband-to-be of their affair, so they, too, chose not to break it off.
“While an affair that manifests itself when a marriage begins to grow stale is simply commonplace, an affair before a marriage has even begun is an entirely different beast,” explains the site’s spokesperson, Christian Grant.
“It raises some salient points; namely, are we meant to be monogamous, are some people born with a natural propensity to cheat, and how or why is there a lack of even a semblance of foresight for an individual who takes this sort of decision?”
The study also showed that men were bigger culprits than women, with 64% of those who pursued an affair into their marriage being men. 27% of respondents admitted to continuing the affair for at least a year into their marriage, with 5% maintaining their affair for 5 years or more.
But whether the adulterer elects to break off their affair or not, they’re more than likely the beneficiary of this sort of scenario.
“In instances like this, the cheater is in a win-win situation,” Grant explains.
“Even if they admit their infidelity and lose their husband/wife as a result, they’re still likely to have the ‘safety net’ of their fellow adulterer to go to.
Likewise, if they break off their affair, with their spouse totally oblivious that it ever took place to begin with, it is their fellow adulterer who is left hurt and alone, with the cheater still able to pursue a relationship with their spouse.”
NOTES TO EDITOR
IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.
Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.
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