Your Husband Is Most Likely to Cheat with THIS Person…

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  • Almost half of married men (48%) have cheated with someone close to home
  • Nannies are the most popular choice, receiving 25% of the vote, followed by long-term friends (18%) and housekeepers (17%)
  • Shockingly, 5% even admitted to having slept with their best friend’s partner
  • Many high profile celebrities, such as Gavin Rossdale and Ben Affleck, have cheated with their children’s nanny in recent years
  • The results come from a survey of over 700 married men on IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people

You keep your friends close and your mistresses closer, a new survey suggests. In a survey of over 700 married men on IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity, almost half (48%) admitted to cheating with someone close to home.

Nannies took 1st place with 25% of the vote, beating off stiff competition in the form of long-term friends (18%), housekeepers (17%) sisters-in-law (12%), mothers-in-law (10%) and even their best friend’s partner (5%).

Explaining this trend is Christian Grant, spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com:

“An affair can sometimes be much more convenient when it’s closer to home. While it might seem more difficult to cover up, given the risk of getting caught by your spouse, it’s also a lot easier to fall for someone you already know.

“It’s also a lot easier to organise, given that the nanny is likely to visit your house fairly often and probably lives nearby. And if your wife happens to catch her name flashing on your phone, she’s unlikely to be suspicious as to why you’re messaging her – she’s your children’s nanny, you have a valid reason to be talking to her.

“All you have to do is wait for the moment your wife inevitably slips out one evening to meet with friends and the rest takes care of itself; the nanny is the perfect Trojan horse.

“The archetypal nanny is also an upgrade on what I suppose many adulterers would consider to be last year’s model – their wife. Young and beautiful, the nanny could very well represent what these men’s wives once looked like in their youth, and having a younger version of their wife within touching distance is too great of a lure to resist.

“It’s for similar reasons – convenience and an already established relationship – that colleagues, long-term friends and even sisters-in-law appear to be popular choices.”

While the idea of an affair with the nanny might appear too much of a cliché or stereotype, it’s more common than you might think.

In fact, Ben Affleck and Gavin Rossdale are just two examples of people who’ve had long-term affairs with their children’s nannies – in the case of Gavin Rossdale, his nanny notoriously bears a striking resemblance to his ex, Gwen Stefani.

Ethan Hawke, formerly attached to Uma Thurman, and Robin Williams (allegedly) also had affairs with their children’s nannies, while Arnold Schwarzenegger infamously had a scandalous affair with his family’s housekeeper.

Full Results:

1. Nanny (25%)

2. Long-term friend (18%)

3. Housekeeper (17%)

4. Other (13%)

5. Sister-in-law (12%)

6. Mother-in-law (10%)

7. Best friend’s partner (5%)

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk
Office: 020 7729 6098
Twitter: @cheatsafer

Here’s Why You’re TWICE As Likely to be Cheated On This Winter… And the Clocks Are to Blame

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  • Twice as many people are looking for an affair on extramarital dating site IllicitEncounters.com compared to last week, and it’s primarily thanks to daylight savings ending
  • There has been a significant increase in site activity, with twice as many messages sent compared to last week
  • 79% of a study of over 500 people on IllicitEncounters.com agreed that it was much easier to cheat went the clocks go back
  • 60% said that they had more time to cheat in the winter months after daylight savings ends, with no school holidays until Christmas
  • The clocks going back has led to dark afternoons and evenings, providing an adulterer the cover of darkness to conduct their salacious affairs

We may have gained an hour in sleep, but some of us might be about to lose a whole lot more as a result.

IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity, has seen twice as many people sign up to the site week-on-week, and the clocks going back are to blame.

The site has also seen as many as twice as many messages sent compared to last week, with users spending more time on the site on average.

Christian Grant, the site’s spokesperson, explains why this is more than just happenstance:

“The clocks going back afford us more time in bed, but they allow for a lot more when it comes to adultery.

“Pitch black afternoons aren’t exactly joyful, especially for those who wait long hours at home for their partner to return from work, and it’s in these moments of upsetting reflection that someone may realise how fractured their marriage is.

“As a result, they decided to warm up their cold, dark afternoons, with a steamy affair being the perfect remedy.”

But it isn’t just the doom and gloom of long winter nights that increase our likelihood of cheating, it’s the security that they afford us.

“An affair won’t happen if it can’t,” says Grant.

“What I mean by that is, if someone has no alibi – no decent excuse to leave the house – and they’re fearful of getting caught, they won’t take that risk – the consequences are too great.”

However, in a study of over 500 people on IllicitEncounters.com, 79% agreed that it was easier to cheat during after the clocks go back.

“Avoiding being caught when you’re cheating is obviously the number one priority,” says Grant.

“The darker days lend to this quite well, as does the colder weather. You can wrap up well, covering your face with a ski mask if you really want to, and few would bat an eyelid; you’ve got a bit more anonymity to meet your secret lover, which is particularly important for those who cheat close to home and are more prone to spotting a familiar face.”

In the same survey, 60% said that they had more time to cheat during the winter months, too.

“With half-term ending, there isn’t an extended school holiday for parents until Christmas,” says Grant.

“Their lives are just a little less busy with their children at school during the day. When you team that with the aforementioned dark afternoons and the cover that the darkness provides, it’s a potent mix that’s ripe for affairs.”

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

For comments, case-studies or more information, contact Christian Grant:

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk
Office: 020 7729 6098
Twitter: @cheatsafer

Revealed! Women Are More Likely to Stray If Their Mothers Cheated Too

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  • There’s a good chance you’re a cheater if your parents have also cheated
  • 71% of cheating women and 45% of cheating men have mothers and fathers who’ve also cheated
  • 66% of women said that they felt they had ‘permission’ to cheat because of their mothers transgressions, while only 22% of men felt the same way
  • 78% of cheating women felt that their own acts of infidelity would be met with understanding from their mothers, but 86% of men would stop cheating if their father told them to
  • The results come from a survey of 500 men and 500 women from IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people

Cheating could run in the family, especially if you’re a woman. A new survey of 500 men and 500 women from IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity, found that as many as 71% of women who were cheating had mothers who cheated too.

With men, that number was much lower: 45%.

Of the cheating women, 66% said that they felt that they had ‘permission’ to cheat because of their mothers transgressions, while only 22% of men felt the same way.

The main reason for this is guilt, or lack thereof, as 78% of cheating women felt that their own acts of infidelity would be met with understanding from their mothers, given that the mothers too have cheated.

On the other hand, an overwhelming 86% of men said that they would give up their affair if their father found out and asked them to stop.

Interestingly, where both men and women’s views aligned was regards to their general views of infidelity, with 83% of men and 89% of women admitting that cheating isn’t necessarily acceptable or morally correct.

Spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com, Christian Grant, said:

“Monkey see, monkey do, but in this instance, that’s better attributed to women. Contrary to popular belief, most men aren’t necessarily proud of the ‘lad’ status given to them by their mates if they sleep around.

“Though it might appear that way, deep down they fear the potential backlash from their fathers, irrespective of whether they have a history of cheating themselves.

“For reasons that are unbeknownst to even ourselves, women are less concerned with any potential fallout with a family member, should they be caught cheating.

“It’s a seemingly inexplicable difference in mentalities: women see their mothers transgressions as a permission to cheat, whereas men still feel a certain guilt hanging over their heads no matter their family history.”

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

For comments, case-studies or more information, contact Christian Grant:

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk
Office: 020 7729 6098
Twitter: @cheatsafer

Hell really does hath no fury like a woman scorned – they are more ruthless at ending marriages after discovering an affair, according to new study

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* Men are MORE willing to forgive affairs than women;
* Women are better at hiding their cheating behaviour than men;
* Facebook is most common reason for a woman starting an affair;
* Most common reason for men was dissatisfaction in the bedroom;
* Results are from a new survey of 1,000 adulterers by IllicitEncounters.com – Britain’s leading dating website for married people
MEN are more willing to forgive affairs than women, according to new study.
It found that 67% of men are prepared to give marriage a second chance after discovering their wife’s betrayal.
In contrast, only 52% of women say they would stay with their husband after discovering his adultery.
The main reason why men are more forgiving is because of the reasons why men and women cheat in the first place.
A third of men (32%) said their wife had cheated because they had been neglectful and they could understand why they had strayed.
Almost half of wives (54%) said they were unable to move on from the adultery because they felt it was part of a pattern and would happen again.
The results come from a new survey of 1,000 adulterers by IllicitEncounters.com – Britain’s leading dating website for married people.
It found that women are better at hiding their affairs than men.
Just over half of female adulterers (52%) said their husband had no idea they had been unfaithful despite having several affairs.
Only 42% of male cheats remained completely undiscovered.
The key to saving a marriage in the wake of an affair is how the other half discovers the betrayal.
If the women owns up and pledges to stay with her husband, the marriage survives in 82% of cases.
But if the man confesses and wants to save his marriage, he is only successful in 68% of cases – again because of this pattern of cheating.
If the woman is caught out by her husband, the survival rates drops to 52%.
If the man is caught cheating, the survival rate is slightly worse at 42% – showing again that women are more ruthless in dealing with betrayal.
The most common reason for a new affair for women is Facebook – where they are likely to hook up with an old flame. Facebook is now cited in a third of all divorce cases
For men, the most common reason for a new affair is dissatisfaction in the bedroom and the desire for fresh excitement.
IllicitEncounters.com spokesman Christian Grant said: “The phrase hell hath no fury like a woman scorned really does seem to be rooted in fact.
“This new IllicitEncounters research shows that women really do react much more badly to cheating that men and that a husband’s adultery is more likely to end in divorce than a wife’s.
“Women are better at covering up their cheating than men and it clear that there are millions of husbands who have no idea about their wife’s illicit behaviour.”
Women date more actively on IllicitEncounters.com than men – enjoying an average of three dates a month compared to men’s two.
The site, an authority on infidelity, has more than a one million registered members and most people on the site remain with their spouses while discreetly seeing other partners.
Top five reasons why women have affairs
1 Facebook – hooking up with an old flame
2 I felt neglected
3 I met someone new
4 I fancied a change
5 I was bored with my husband
Top five reasons why men have affairs
1 My sex life was boring
2 An opportunity arose
3 I fancied a changed
4 I no longer fancied my wife
5 Facebook

Beer goggles do exist – and you are more likely to have sex on date if you have been boozing, according to a new survey.

* Three-quarters of women said booze had made a man they had not previously fancied seem more attractive;
* 84% of men said alcohol had changed their first impressions of a female date and made them keener to take things further;
* The vast majority of women (86%) said they were more likely to sleep with a man on a date if alcohol was involved;
* 92% of men said booze made sex more likely on a date;
* The results from a new survey of 1,000 people by IllicitEncounters.com, Britain’s leading dating website for married people

Three-quarters of women (74%) said that alcohol had made a man they had not previously fancied on a date seem more attractive.

And 84% of men said a few drinks had changed unfavourable first impressions of a female date and made them keener to take things further.

The vast majority of women (86%) said they were more likely to sleep with a man on a date if alcohol was involved.

Nine out of ten men (92%) said booze made sex more likely on a date.

The results come from a new survey of 1,000 people by IllicitEncounters.com, the leading dating website for married people.

The dictionary definition of beer boggles is the “phenomenon in which one’s consumption of alcohol makes physically unattractive persons appear beautiful.”

The survey found that 54% of women had ended up having sex with a man while wearing beer goggles.

In 84% of cases, the women had not seen the man for a further date.

Two-thirds of men (64%) had had beer goggle sex – and most (76%) had not seen the woman for a second date.

Despite these findings, 68% of women and 82% of men like to drink alcohol on a first date.
The main reason both sexes hit the booze is that it ‘helps to break the ice’ – chosen by 72% of women and 87% of men.

Most men (77%) and the majority of women (64%) said they felt more confident after a drink.

The most popular time to wear beer goggles is when you are student.

More than half of men (54%) and 48% of women said they had had beer goggle sex when they were at college.

IllicitEncounters.com spokesman Christian Grant said:

“Dating is a stressful business – you are meeting a new person and need to make a good impression fast.

It’s no wonder that both sexes finding that drinking alcohol makes the whole process a lot easier.

As the booze flows, inevitably the beer goggles come on and dates that might have finished with a quick peck on the cheek end up going far further.

That is the experience of millions of people who are dating online including lots of members of IllicitEncounters.com – you end up kissing a few ugly ducklings before meeting your swan.

Beer goggle sex may not lead to true love most of the time, but it can often be a lot of fun.”

llicitEncounters.com has more than a million members in the UK.

Most of its male members are white collar professionals earning an average of £54,000 a year.

Women on the site cheat more than men – enjoying three clandestine dates a month, compared to men’s two.

NOTES TO EDITOR 

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading and longest running dating site for married people. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 10 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

For comments, case-studies or more information, contact Christian Grant:

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk
Office: 020 7729 6098
Twitter: @cheatsafer

Love at first spy – 64% of us have tracked our first love on social media to see who they are with now, according to a new survey

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* A quarter of us are STILL with our first love;
* 75% of people experience first love by the time they are 21;
* 41% of people enjoy the best sex of their lives with their first love;
* One in six of us have slept again with our first love after reconnecting with them online post-break up;
* Results are from a survey of 1,000 people by IllicitEncounters.com, Britain’s leading dating website for married people

Most people have looked up their first love on social media to check out who they are dating, according to a new survey.

It found that 64% of people had searched for pictures and updates on the life of the person who first captured their heart on websites such as Facebook and Twitter.

More than a quarter of those surveyed have got back in touch with their first love after looking them up online.

And around one in six people (15%) have slept with their ex after reconnecting online, and a further 21% have thought about having sex with them.

The results were revealed in a survey of 1,000 people by IllicitEncounters.com – Britain’s leading dating website for married people.

The poll found that love truly is all around: 99% of us have fallen in love at least once in our lives by the age of 40.

For most people (55%), this happens between the ages of 15-18, a fifth (20%) fall in love between 19-21 and 8% between 22-25.

The first serious relationship lasts between one and five years for 40% of people.
A quarter of respondents (25%) are still dating their first love now, and a further 24% are still in touch even though they are no longer together.

Less than half of people (41%) said they enjoyed the best sex of their lives with their first love.

Roughly the same number (42%) still talk about their first love with their current partner.
Interestingly, this was one of the answers where there was the biggest difference in the responses of men and women.

Whereas 45% of women talk about their first love with their current partner, just 38% of men do the same.

Half of women said they had been contacted by their ex and had ignored them – whereas this has happened to just 28% of men.

Just over a quarter of us (28%) still reminisce fondly about our first love – men (31%) slightly more than women (27%).

IllicitEncounters.com spokesman Christian Grant said: “Anyone’s first love will have a profound effect on their lives.

With so many of us on social media, it is far easier to secretly track how they are getting on and it is not surprising that most people have done this.

The survey shows clearly that women are far keener than men to talk about their experiences with previous lovers.

I think this is because they want to make sure they don’t repeat previous mistakes and are generally happier talking about their feelings.

Men are much more likely to contact a former lover directly. They also reminisce more fondly about their ex-lovers than women.

I think we can safely say that these two findings are connected: men are much keener on having sex again with their first love than women who are more prepared to move on with their lives.”

IllicitEncounters.com has more than one million members in the UK.

The average income of male members is £54,000 and there are more than 20,000 people online looking for affairs each month.

NOTES TO EDITOR 

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading and longest running dating site for married people. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 10 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

For comments, case-studies or more information, contact Christian Grant:

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk
Office: 020 7729 6098
Twitter: @cheatsafer

We All Know What Counts As Cheating, but Here’s What Doesn’t…​

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  • Flirting, a drunken kiss and attending a strip club are just some of the things that DON’T count as cheating
  • Nearly two thirds of men and over half of women would forgive their partner if they caught them sending intimate messages to someone else
  • However, 89% of men and 93% of women would end their relationship if they caught their partner getting intimate with someone else
  • The results come from a survey of over 2,500 members from IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people

There are no hard and fast rules as to what constitutes cheating. Or at least there weren’t.IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people, have written the rule-book on cheating, compiled from suggestions and responses of over 2,500 of their members.

Cheating includes:

  • Sexting
  • Sexual intercourse
  • Other sexual activities (e.g. oral sex)
  • Dating someone outside of your relationship
  • All of the above, even if the relationship isn’t ‘official’

Cheating doesn’t include:

  •  Flirting
  •  Romantic and intimate thoughts about someone other than your partner
  •  Kissing someone while drunk
  •  Holding hands with someone other than your partner
  •  Denying being married / in a relationship
  •  Sleeping in the same bed with a friend of the opposite gender
  •  Dancing with a member of the opposite gender
  •  Going to a strip club
  •  Liking or commenting on someone else’s photo on social media
  •  Remaining close friends with an old flame

However, despite there being an overall consensus, the numbers did differ slightly depending on gender. 82% of men felt that flirting with someone didn’t constitute cheating, compared to 60% of women. And while 68% of men didn’t think that lying about their relationship status counted as being unfaithful, a little over half (53%) of women felt the same way.

83% of men felt that going to a strip club didn’t constitute cheating, and a surprisingly high number of women (77%) agreed. A high number of both men and women, 96% and 93% respectively, felt that liking or positing flattering comments on someone else’s photo on social media also didn’t cross any lines.

The survey also found that 65% of men and 54% of women would forgive their partner if they caught them sending intimate messages to another person, while 89% of men and 93% of women would break off their relationship if they caught their significant other getting intimate in any way with someone else.

Spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com, Christian Grant, explains:

“While sex or sexting might be the obvious lines in the sand, it’s quite surprising to see the things that don’t fall under the bracket of cheating.

It seems that many people are willing to forgive a kiss, so long as it’s while under the influence of alcohol, while flirting and even going to a strip club don’t cross any lines.”

Emily, 37, explains:

“For me, cheating is all about the intent behind it. If the man I was seeing cared for someone more than me, and expressed those emotions by sexting or dating her behind my back, that’s not ok.

But a drunken kiss, the odd bit of flirting… look, we’ve all made mistakes, and context is important. Remaining monogamous is incredibly difficult – I don’t believe that all of us haven’t had an inappropriate thought about someone else at some stage, that doesn’t make us all adulterers.”

NOTES TO EDITOR 

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading and longest running dating site for married people. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 10 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

For comments, case-studies or more information, contact Christian Grant:

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk
Office: 020 7729 6098
Twitter: @cheatsafer

Hacking Scandal Sends Thousands of Men Running for the Hills

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The infamous Ashley Madison scandal, which saw the personal data of millions of its users compromised, has left its closest competitors short of male subscribers.

Illicitencounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married couples, have reported a major decrease in their male subscribers. A significant amount of male members have also either abandoned the site or requested a permanent deletion of their account, with as many as 2500 less men registering to the site.. A 35% drop month on month.

The website also noted that an average of just 200 men were signing up to the website on a daily basis, down from the average daily expectancy of 450.

Spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com, Claire Page, stated: “In light of recent events, we’ve found ourselves directly and negatively impacted. We’ve always proudly held a relatively even ratio of men to women, but our male user base has taken somewhat of a blow.”

Simon Francis, CEO of IllicitEncounters.com, added, “To be quite frank, the likes of Ashley Madison have ruined it for more honest sites like ourselves. We don’t store card details or even ask for our customers real names and any personal data is securely encrypted”

However, Illicit Encounters still boasts a healthy community, with 30,000 active members in the last 30 days alone and, surprisingly, women have found themselves more eager to have an affair.

The website has seen an increase in the number of female members, a 10% increase in new female subscribers month on month.

“While we’ve lost some of our men, our female members have remained consistent,” Francis explains.

“People who join our website do so with the intention of rekindling their love life and sparking that passion that has disappeared from their current relationship, and that hasn’t changed.”

“We’re proud that, unlike most of our competitors, our site only allows for real, genuine people, with no bots or fake profiles to be seen.”

“We’re still seeing several new women signing up to the website on a daily basis, with our current female members continuing to update their profiles, renew their memberships and actively participate in searching for their ideal partners.”

The UK’s Leading married dating website IllicitEncounters.com

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s largest and longest running dating site for married people. With over 1,000,000 members across the UK, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2003, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 10 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

For comments, case-studies or more information contact Claire Page:

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Office: 020 7729 6098

Twitter: @cheatsafer

​Why do people have affairs? Not because of sex!

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Commitment is the rule of thumb for most relationships, and yet infidelity is the unspoken fact.

IllicitEncounters.com has discovered that most people have affairs because they are seeking companionship rather than sex.

Despite the recent hacking scandal of a similar dating site – people joining extra-marital dating sites are still on the rise.

With over 1,000,000 members and approximately 7% of the married population using IllicitEncounters.com – perhaps it’s time we began to tackle the reasons why more people are having affairs rather than condemning the affair itself.

The affairs site screened 400 of its members and found a re-occurrence of certain issues that lead people to have affairs. The top 5 scenarios were-

Companionship

– A lack of emotional intimacy is the cause of straying for so many adulterers. Many members complain of feeling invisible to their partner – undervalued, unappreciated and taken for granted. Many people choose to have an affair to feel that emotional connection once again.

Family

– Contrary to popular belief, many affair seekers choose to have an affair because they do not want to break up their family. Their relationship may have disintegrated, and although no longer a happy husband and wife – they may still make a good father and mother. Many adulterers choose to take on an affair because they do not want to abandon their children, having an affair allows them to fulfil needs without upsetting the balance.

Financial Reasons

– The people that fit into this bracket tend to be very unhappy in their marriage, but for financial reasons they cannot break it off. They may have invested their money into joint ventures such as buying a house or starting a business, they may be financially dependent on their other half or they may simply end up worse off if they were to abandon the marriage.

Permission

– A lot of people using extra-marital affairs sites have express permission from their spouse to do so, many belong to open relationships for example. There is also a high number of members on the site that belong to the ‘carer’ category where for medical reasons the partner who can no longer engage sexually with their spouse will give permission for them to seek out an extra-marital relationship.

Sex

– Sex plays a significant part in why people choose to cheat. However, it was also the least quoted reason out of the 400 people interviewed. Sex is an important factor in any relationship, and for many married couples their sex life can dwindle, some people have also said that they have stopped fancying their partner as the years have gone by. Missing the passion and excitement a new liaison can bring can tempt a spouse to seek out a lover to ignite that spark again.

Claire Page spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com said “Most people don’t take on an affair lightly; it is usually a last resort. Nobody gets married and immediately looks forward to cheating on their partner. However, it seems now in this modern day and age that an affair is a natural progression in a long-term relationship, and occurs due to a number of factors such as personal needs and external life influences.

Once a relationship becomes long term, many marriages end up becoming more like business partnerships – you have joint finances and a joint responsibility to bring up your children – however the companionship and sex may have become rather lacking.

Maybe the people who allow each other to have an affair have got it right – building on an already strong foundation of trust, the ultimate support would be to give your partner the green light to explore where an affair-journey may take them. The bottom line is people have a multitude of reasons to embark on an affair. People join married dating sites and cheat because they can – and maybe it’s time we let them.”

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The UK’s Leading married dating website IllicitEncounters.com

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s largest and longest running dating site for married people. With over 1,000,000 members across the UK, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2003, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 10 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

For comments, case-studies or more information contact Claire Page:

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Office: 020 7729 6098

Twitter: @illicitclaire

Cheating men don’t watch porn! But they did when they were faithful.

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Monogamous men watch pornography, but those that are unfaithful don’t. Over half of adulterers admit they’ve stopped watching porn since having an affair.

Research from UK’s largest extra-marital dating site IllicitEncounters.com reveals that you are 38% more likely to watch pornographic material when you are in a devoted relationship.

The affairs site surveyed 1,400 of its male members and found that 72% admitted they watched porn regularly (between 1-3 times a week) prior to engaging in an affair, compared to just 34% since having cheated on their partner.

The study also questioned users on their porn habits and the majority kept it a secret from their spouse (68%). Most married men said they wouldn’t watch porn with their wife (84%) however, more than half would be happy to watch porn with their mistress (64%)

Jonathon a male member using the site said “I’ve been with my wife for 12 years, and probably stopped having sex regularly halfway through our 12 years together. I guess that coincides with the time I began to watch a lot more porn a lot more often. If you’re not getting off with your wife, how else are you supposed to? Now I’ve been seeing other people, my sex life has been revived and I don’t feel the need to watch it anymore.”

“It boils down to the Coolidge effect.” Psychologist Lucy Redford said “Men who have the same sexual partner experience a decline in arousal over time; however, when the same man is introduced to new receptive females he experiences a renewed sense of sexual excitement. The bottom line is multiple partners keep a man’s interest, this can devoid the need to self-entertain through the medium of pornographic videos.”

Claire Page spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com said “Men are visual creatures, and how can you expect a man to be turned on by the same person eternally. People are pleasure-seeking creatures, we’re never truly content or satisfied, we’re always seeking more – naturally when a man is no longer finding sexual satisfaction in their significant other they may attempt to feed their sexual appetite elsewhere – let them have porn!

What infidelity does is creates a sense of newness and defeats the point of watching porn, that is, until the novelty wears off. Porn is of course very stimulating, but so are new and exciting sexual partners.”

The UK’s Leading married dating website IllicitEncounters.com

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s largest and longest running dating site for married people. With over 1,000,000 members across the UK, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2003, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 10 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

For comments, case-studies or more information contact Claire Page:

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Office: 020 7953 7167

Twitter: @illicitclaire