- An affair can be good for your mental and physical health, a new study has claimed
- 42% of respondents noted improvements in their physical health as a direct result of an affair
- Of that 42%, 91% agreed it was because they “exercised more and ate healthier” to impress their new lover
- An affair can improve one’s mental health, too, with scientific research claiming that “an affair can be a healthy act”
- The findings come from a study of approximately 600 people on IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people
An affair can be good for your health, a new study has revealed. IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity, spoke to 600 of their members who have previously been successful on the site.
42% claimed that their physical well-being has improved as a direct result of their affair. Of that 42%, an overwhelmingly majority (91%) agreed it was because they “exercised more and ate healthier” in order to impress their new lover.
But there are also many mental health benefits of having an affair, as the site’s spokesperson, Christian Grant, explains:
“We’re very cognisant of the stigma surrounding affairs.
It’s dangerous to generalize, yet many do it anyway. But this preconceived notion that an affair is overwhelmingly evil or negative is simply not true at all.
For several reasons, people get stuck in marriages that aren’t working. People grow apart, sex isn’t on the table anymore, and serious medical conditions can take their toll, too – it’s impossible to not be broken down mentally because of that.
But despite this, a lot of people accept the status quo. Nobody wants to feel unloved, and an affair allows those stuck in dead marriages to remember what it is like to feel wanted again and fill in the gaps in their lives that are sorely missing at home, be they emotional or physical, hence the overwhelmingly positive response from our members.
They are far happier balancing two relationships, knowing that they are loved and wanted in at least one of them, than staying quiet and reserved in a relationship that is doing them more harm than good.”
These sentiments have been previously supported by scientific research, with the 2011 journal Personal Relationshipsclaiming:
“Individuals who are in insecure relationships are more vulnerable to longer-term health risks from conflict than are others.”
Psychologists, such as Douglas La Bier, have also claimed that “an affair can be a healthy act,” as it “can provide feelings of affirmation and restore vitality, and can activate courage to leave the marriage when doing so is the healthiest path. The affair can generate greater emotional honesty and mature behavior.”
Linda, who responded to the survey, added:
“An affair helped me emotionally and physically. From the physical side of things, meeting someone new gave me greater motivation to exercise more and eat less – my health wasn’t a massive issue for me soon after I got married, it didn’t need to be.
Secondly, an affair made me realise just how sour my marriage had become, so I opened up to my husband about it. It gave me the courage to speak to him honestly about our physical relationship, or lack thereof, and we’re now in an open relationship as a result – something we’ve both agreed to and are very happy with.”
NOTES TO EDITOR
IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.
Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.
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