• 79% of women and 49% of men correctly suspected their partner of cheating
• Women were better at catching their partner, and they were twice as likely to call out them for cheating, too
• 5% of women admitted to hiring a private investigator to track their husband, but just 2% of men did the same
• 85% of women and 82% of men denied their affair when they were confronted by their partner
• The research comes from IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people, who spoke to the husbands and wives that caught their partner cheating
If you’ve got a niggling doubt that your partner might be unfaithful, you’re probably right. That’s according to IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity.
They spoke to the husbands and wives who caught their significant other cheating, finding that a rather alarmingly high number of women (79%) had previously suspected their partner of cheating before they eventually caught them.
The number of men who suspected their wife of cheating, however, was significantly less (49%), leaving the majority totally oblivious to their wife’s indiscretions.
Women were also twice as likely to call out their husband when they suspected them of cheating, doing so an average of four times compared to just twice for men.
And to prove that hell really hath no fury like a woman scorned, women were also more than twice as likely to hire a detective or private investigator to track their husband when they suspected him of cheating, with 5% of women admitting to doing so; a mere 2% of men did the same.
Where men and women had some sort of parity was in deniability, with 85% of women and 82% of men denying their affair whenever they were confronted by their significant other.
Spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com, Christian Grant, adds:
“Maybe it’s a woman’s intuition, or maybe blokes are doing a terrible job of covering their tracks, but it’s safe to say that if you have a suspicion that your partner is cheating, however slight, it’s worth trusting your gut on this one… if you’re a woman, anyway.
“Men on the other hand aren’t getting any help from their gut whatsoever. They’re either completely oblivious that their wife is cheating on them, or they’re more fearful of incorrectly accusing their wife when she may be totally innocent.
Kimberley – 32 – Hampshire
“I remember first being concerned when my husband became less and less interested in sex for no apparent reason. It didn’t happen instantly, like he was eager to have sex one day but couldn’t care less the next, but it was definitely noticeable.
“But I gave him the benefit of the doubt – he’s my husband, and I know I’d feel uncomfortable if someone had accused me of cheating, so I tried to forget about it.
“Then gradually, I started to get other hints that made it really difficult not to be cynical. He started spending more and more time at work (for no apparent reason, he hadn’t received a promotion or anything like that) as well as with ‘friends’.
“It got to the point where I’d started to feel so neglected in favour of, as it turns out, this other woman he was seeing, that I decided to question him about it. To my dismay, he denied everything, and when I questioned him a second time, he denied it again, but more aggressively this time. He’d wilted by the third time I’d called him out and that was that.”
Cheryl – 42 – Coventry
“My husband and I were always perfectly happy… at least so I thought! We both work decent jobs, we spent time together, our kids are perfectly happy and so on.
“I wouldn’t have had much reason to suspect he was cheating on me – like I said, I thought all was well – and in fact the way I found out was all rather cliché.
“We live in a small town near Coventry, so it’s not uncommon to bump into someone you know, and that’s what happened. A family friend noticed my husband out with another woman.
“Obviously I was shocked when she told me, but my first thoughts were that it could have been a colleague, client, a friend I simply don’t know about etc.
“With that said, I couldn’t help but be a little suspicious, so I went through his internet history (it seemed like an obvious place to start) and it confirmed my suspicions.
“It took me some time to stomach and process everything, but I called him out on it a few days later, providing his search history as proof that I knew. We had a pretty open and honest chat about everything – I took it surprisingly well – and we’ve started seeking marriage counselling as a result.”
NOTES TO EDITOR
IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.
Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.
We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.