2 out of 3 adulterers have a happy marriage – but cheat anyway

* 2 out of 3 adulterers have a happy marriage
* British loverats claim  ‘An affair improved my marriage’ 
* A cheating husband or wife would be heartbroken if their spouse was also unfaithful – and would be unlikely to forgive them
*Results from a survey of 800 adulterers from the UK’s leading married dating site IllicitEncounters.com

Unhappy people cheat – wrong! Infidelity strikes in happy marriages. 

IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating site for married people, surveyed 800 people currently having an affair to discover what led them to cheat in the first place and the results will shock you. 

Turns out that a marriage does not have to be a trainwreck for cheating to be prevalent as 67% of men and women admit they are actually happy in their marriages. 

77% of the respondents claim an affair has even improved their marriage.

79% of those polled said they would never consider leaving their partner even if they met somebody they really liked.

94% of people currently cheating on their spouse would feel heartbroken if they discovered their husband or wife was also cheating on them, and a whopping 82% said they could not forgive the transgression. 

Jessica Leoni, sex and relationships expert at IllicitEncounters.com, said ‘I’m not entirely shocked that happy people cheat, if you’re unhappy your mind is elsewhere – there’s no way you could compartmentalise an affair. People in unhappy marriages usually lack confidence, they can be stressed and depressed – not really first date material. 

Often our members come from happy homes where the spark may have gone out – they still get on with their husbands or wives and enjoy their marital lives. Adulterers don’t want to leave their partners, they just want some extra spice and adventure in their lives.’

Members of IllicitEncounters.com speak out below: 

Natalie, 40, Sussex

‘My husband and I have built the perfect life together. I adore my husband. He is good-looking, successful, a great father – and totally devoted to our family. Jack’s the polar opposite, he keeps me on my toes. He’s flirty, cheeky and kinky. At home I have love, safety and stability. With Jack I have lust, adventure and spontaneity. I think it’s natural for us to be curious and crave variety. Jack is my lover, nothing more, he is not husband material. I wouldn’t trade my husband for the world.’

Jamie, 55, Manchester

‘Me and my wife get on really well, we have a strong connection and lots in common, the same morals and values – well, besides my affair, which if she found out would destroy her. I have had a number of affairs over the years because our sex life is non existent. We still sleep in the same bed, kiss, cuddle. It’s rare it goes any further than that. I’m fit and healthy and I’m not ready to give up on sex.’
 

Results:

Are you happy in your marriage?

67% Yes
33% No

Has an affair improved your marriage?

77% Yes
23% No

If you met somebody you really liked – would you ever consider leaving your spouse?

21% Yes
79% No

Would you be heartbroken if you discovered your spouse was cheating on you?

94% Yes
6% No

Would you forgive your spouse if you discovered that they were unfaithful?

18% Yes
82% No

NOTES TO EDITOR
IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

Check out what our users are saying to each other in our live Lockdown Forum: www.illicitencounters.com/lockdown/pr

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Don’t get mad, get even – how a third of women cheat in revenge after their partner strayed previously, according to a new survey

* A quarter of men ‘revenge cheat’ after discovering their lover has been unfaithful;

* The vast majority of revenge cheaters (82%) feel justified in having an affair to ‘get their own back’ on lover’s betrayal;

* Big rise in revenge cheating since the end of lockdown as new freedoms spark a surge in affairs;

* Results are from a new survey of 2,000 people by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading affairs site

A third of women cheat in revenge after their partners previously strayed, according to a new survey

Slightly fewer men (26%) also ‘revenge cheat’ to get their own back from an earlier betrayal.

The vast majority of revenge cheaters (72%) said they felt justified in having an affair because their partner erred first.

More men (54%) than women (48%) are likely to own up to a revenge affair to show their partner the error of their ways.

The most common way that people revenge cheat is through meeting a new partner on a dating website or app, chosen by 42% of respondents, followed sleeping with a former lover or friend (28%), contact through social media (12%), a work romance (10%) and a pick-up at a bar or club (8%).

There has been a 12% rise in revenge cheating since the end of lockdown as the new freedoms sparking a surge in affairs. The results are revealed in a new survey of 2,000 people by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading affairs site.

Being caught did not stop 44% of cheats from carrying on seeing a lover, despite telling their partner the affair was over.

The survey found that less than a quarter of people (23%) end their relationship after discovering an affair.

Far more (30%) stay with their partner and then get their revenge by having an affair of their own.

The survey found that a third of couples (32%) used lockdown to make a fresh start while stuck at home together for 18 months.

That involved confessing to a past fling for 13% of women and 10% of men.

IllicitiEncounters.com sex and relationship expert Jessica Leoni said: “Revenge cheating has never been more popular.

“More people are taking the view: don’t get mad, get even, and concluding that the best way to get over an affair is not by being a doormat and accepting it but by getting out there and avenging it.

“The last two months have seen a surge in revenge cheating as people who have discovered past betrayals during lockdown and used the new freedoms to get their own back.”

IllicitEncounters has enjoyed its busiest month for new registrations in a decade as unhappy spouses use the end of lockdown to have some fun.

Another factor in the surge has been Health Secretary Matt Hancock’s affair, with men in particular encouraged by him cheating on his wife to seek a new relationship.

Every day around 30,000 people are having an affair on IllicitEncounters and more than a million people have registered with the site since it was launched 18 years ago.

Top 5 ways people revenge cheat

1 Seeking new partner on a dating site or app

2 With a former lover or friend

3 Connecting with a new partner through social media

4 Work romance

5 Pick-up in pub or club

Case Study

“Sex with the ex was even better the second time round:” rampant bar manager Chloe bedded the boy she lost her virginity to 15 years later

* The randy pair were reunited after meeting on IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading affairs site

A rampant bar manager has told how she bedded the boy she lost her virginity to 15 years later – after they were reunited on a cheating site.

Chloe, 30, from Stevenage, Herts, was keen to have an affair after the sex in her long-term relationship went stale after the birth of her two sons.

And she was stunned when she went looking for a ‘bit on the side’ on IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading affairs site, to discover her first love Paul, 31, was also trying to cheat at the same time.

Chloe said: “I messaged him immediately and said: ‘Fancy seeing you here! What a small world.’

“He got back to me in minutes and within an hour we were arranging to meet up at a hotel for sex.

“We were both curious to see how we had each changed and whether the sex would be as good the second time around.

“Well, I can confirm that it was even better – we had both learned a few new tricks since we were at school!

“It was great seeing Paul again after all these years and we slept together a few more times after that first encounter but we split up the first time for a good reason and we knew we didn’t want to leave our partners for each other.

“Having an affair was much more fun and had no consequences for our partners and our children.”

Chloe had settled down with security manager Ian, 34, the man she dated after splitting with Paul.

She said: “Paul was my first love and we fell in love at school and were both virgins when we first made love.

“After that, we were rampant for the next two years and I had the best sex of my life with him.

“We split up after leaving school when Paul went to university and I pursued a new career working in pubs and clubs.

“Paul moved abroad and I thought I would never see him again.

“I met Ian and decided to have a family.”

Everything was fine with Ian for ten years before things got boring after they started a family.

Chloe said: “The relationship became a bit of a slog and we both stopped making the effort.

“Ian put on weight and I stopped fancying him. I didn’t want to split up the family but I did want the excitement of a new relationship.

“I went on IllicitEncounters the first time a couple of years ago and ended up having a year long affair with an insurance manager.

“He was stuck in a sexless marriage, too, and we had a lot of fun.

“I took a bit of break when we split up and Covid happened and then went back on the site to discover Paul was back in the UK and looking to cheat.

“Since we split up the second time, I have been seeing another man who works in IT. It suits me to have affairs and not get heavy with anyone.”

NOTES TO EDITOR
IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

Check out what our users are saying to each other in our live Lockdown Forum: www.illicitencounters.com/lockdown/pr

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Password: openthel0ck4me

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

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Brits Vote on the World’s Sexiest Foreign Accents

* Britain votes French the sexiest female foreign accent in the world for women and Italian for men

* 5 out of 6 Brits think an accent makes someone more (or less!) attractive

* More than half of us have broken up with someone we fancied just because we didn’t like their accent

* The results come as part of a survey of 1200 people on lllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people.

You’ve probably heard of love at first sight, but what about love at first sound? Turns out a person’s voice can be a massive turn on as Brits find some accents more attractive than others.

IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating site for married people, polled 1200 men and women to discover Britain’s favourite foreign accents. Sex and relationships expert for the website, Jessica Leoni has compiled and commented on the results below:

83% of the respondents agreed that a person’s accent can make them more or less attractive.

The saying ‘you were so attractive until you opened your mouth’ – rings true when it comes to accents. As a whopping 53% of men and women have actually broken up with someone they fancied because they did not like their accent.

40% of people have consciously toned down their accent when dating. 

In first place for sexiest female foreign accents, as voted by men, is the ‘language of love’ French with 26% of the vote – très bien. Everything about the French exudes romance – the dialect has that mysterious je ne se quois that leave men falling into hopeless devotion. Take famous actress Léa Seydoux for example – set to return to the screens as Madeleine Swann a love interest of Mr. Bond, James Bond – Léa Seydoux french accent is absolutely mesmerising. 

Spanish comes in close second sexiest female foreign accent (23%), such as the award-winning Spanish actress Penelope Cruz, and actress Úrsula Corberó best known for her role in Money Heist as Tokyo.

Third place goes to Poland (13%), with Polish being the highest non-British population residing in the UK it comes as no surprise they would fare well.

Fourth place goes to Italian with 11%, fifth place is Dutch (8%) and sixth place is German (6%).

Second to last is Swedish in seventh place (4%)  and Irish eighth and last place (2%).

In the men’s category, Italy scores yet again following their euro victory, British women found Italian to be the number one most desirable accent on a man with 24% of the vote. There is a plethora of famous Italian men, from designer Giorgio Armani, to footballers Andrea Pirlo or Gianluigi Donnarumma – the list goes on, even Italian names sound sexy on the tongue. 

Second sexiest male accent is Spanish (20%). Famous Spanish men include actors Miguel Silvestre, famed for his portrayal of villain Franklin Jurado in Narcos, or Alvaro Morte, El Professor, in Money Heist.

Irish comes in third place for sexiest male accents (12%) – such as the likes of actors Liam Neelson, Cillian Murphy and Colin Farrel. 

Fourth place sexiest male accent is Canadian (11%), followed by South African in fifth overall place (9%).

French is dethroned as the language of love for men coming in 6th place (7%). Famous male French celebrities include actor Vincent Cassel or footballer Kylian Mbappé.

Seventh place goes to Greek (6%), second to last is Portuguese in seventh place (5%)  and lastly Australian in eighth overall sexiest male accents (2%). 

Results

Women Sexiest Foreign Accents

French 26%
Spanish 23%

Polish 13%

Italian 11%

Dutch 8%

German 6%

Swedish 4%

Irish 2%

Other 7%

Men Sexiest Foreign Accents

Italian 24%

Spanish 20%

Irish 12%

Canadian 11%

South African 9%

French 7%

Greek 6%

Portuguese 5%

Australian 2%

Other 4%

NOTES TO EDITOR
IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

Check out what our users are saying to each other in our live Lockdown Forum: www.illicitencounters.com/lockdown/pr

Username: pr
Password: openthel0ck4me

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

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