Hell really does hath no fury like a woman scorned – they are more ruthless at ending marriages after discovering an affair, according to new study

 

* Men are MORE willing to forgive affairs than women;

* Women are better at hiding their cheating behaviour than men;

* Facebook is most common reason for a woman starting an affair;

* Most common reason for men was dissatisfaction in the bedroom;

* Results are from a new survey of 1,000 adulterers by IllicitEncounters.com – Britain’s leading dating website for married people

MEN are more willing to forgive affairs than women, according to new study.

It found that 67% of men are prepared to give marriage a second chance after discovering their wife’s betrayal.

In contrast, only 52% of women say they would stay with their husband after discovering his adultery.

The main reason why men are more forgiving is because of the reasons why men and women cheat in the first place.

A third of men (32%) said their wife had cheated because they had been neglectful and they could understand why they had strayed.

Almost half of wives (54%) said they were unable to move on from the adultery because they felt it was part of a pattern and would happen again.

The results come from a new survey of 1,000 adulterers by IllicitEncounters.com – Britain’s leading dating website for married people.

It found that women are better at hiding their affairs than men.

Just over half of female adulterers (52%) said their husband had no idea they had been unfaithful despite having several affairs.

Only 42% of male cheats remained completely undiscovered.

The key to saving a marriage in the wake of an affair is how the other half discovers the betrayal.

If the women owns up and pledges to stay with her husband, the marriage survives in 82% of cases.

But if the man confesses and wants to save his marriage, he is only successful in 68% of cases – again because of this pattern of cheating.

If the woman is caught out by her husband, the survival rates drops to 52%.

If the man is caught cheating, the survival rate is slightly worse at 42% – showing again that women are more ruthless in dealing with betrayal.

The most common reason for a new affair for women is Facebook – where they are likely to hook up with an old flame. Facebook is now cited in a third of all divorce cases

For men, the most common reason for a new affair is dissatisfaction in the bedroom and the desire for fresh excitement.

IllicitEncounters.com spokesman Christian Grant said: “The phrase hell hath no fury like a woman scorned really does seem to be rooted in fact.

“This new IllicitEncounters research shows that women really do react much more badly to cheating that men and that a husband’s adultery is more likely to end in divorce than a wife’s.

“Women are better at covering up their cheating than men and it clear that there are millions of husbands who have no idea about their wife’s illicit behaviour.”

Women date more actively on IllicitEncounters.com than men – enjoying an average of three dates a month compared to men’s two.

The site, an authority on infidelity, has more than a one million registered members and most people on the site remain with their spouses while discreetly seeing other partners.

Top five reasons why women have affairs

1 Facebook – hooking up with an old flame

2 I felt neglected

3 I met someone new

4 I fancied a change

5 I was bored with my husband

Top five reasons why men have affairs

1 My sex life was boring

2 An opportunity arose

3 I fancied a changed

4 I no longer fancied my wife

5 Facebook

Affairs Improve Physical and Mental Health; Here’s How

• An affair can be good for your mental and physical health, a new study has claimed
• 42% of respondents noted improvements in their physical health as a direct result of an affair
• Of that 42%, 91% agreed it was because they “exercised more and ate healthier” to impress their new lover
• An affair can improve one’s mental health, too, with scientific research claiming that “an affair can be a healthy act”
• The findings come from a study of approximately 600 people on IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people

An affair can be good for your health, a new study has revealed. IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity, spoke to 600 of their members who have previously been successful on the site.

42% claimed that their physical well-being has improved as a direct result of their affair. Of that 42%, an overwhelmingly majority (91%) agreed it was because they “exercised more and ate healthier” in order to impress their new lover.

But there are also many mental health benefits of having an affair, as the site’s spokesperson, Christian Grant, explains:

“We’re very cognisant of the stigma surrounding affairs.

It’s dangerous to generalize, yet many do it anyway. But this preconceived notion that an affair is overwhelmingly evil or negative is simply not true at all.

For several reasons, people get stuck in marriages that aren’t working. People grow apart, sex isn’t on the table anymore, and serious medical conditions can take their toll, too – it’s impossible to not be broken down mentally because of that.

But despite this, a lot of people accept the status quo. Nobody wants to feel unloved, and an affair allows those stuck in dead marriages to remember what it is like to feel wanted again and fill in the gaps in their lives that are sorely missing at home, be they emotional or physical, hence the overwhelmingly positive response from our members.

They are far happier balancing two relationships, knowing that they are loved and wanted in at least one of them, than staying quiet and reserved in a relationship that is doing them more harm than good.”

These sentiments have been previously supported by scientific research, with the 2011 journal Personal Relationshipsclaiming:

“Individuals who are in insecure relationships are more vulnerable to longer-term health risks from conflict than are others.”

Psychologists, such as Douglas La Bier, have also claimed that “an affair can be a healthy act,” as it “can provide feelings of affirmation and restore vitality, and can activate courage to leave the marriage when doing so is the healthiest path. The affair can generate greater emotional honesty and mature behavior.”

Linda, who responded to the survey, added:

“An affair helped me emotionally and physically. From the physical side of things, meeting someone new gave me greater motivation to exercise more and eat less – my health wasn’t a massive issue for me soon after I got married, it didn’t need to be.

Secondly, an affair made me realise just how sour my marriage had become, so I opened up to my husband about it. It gave me the courage to speak to him honestly about our physical relationship, or lack thereof, and we’re now in an open relationship as a result – something we’ve both agreed to and are very happy with.”

Sources

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2011/06/110617080833.htm

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/douglas-labier/why-an-affair-can-be-psyc_b_1604018.html

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

For comments, case-studies or more information, contact Christian Grant:

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk
Office: 020 7729 6098
Twitter: @cheatsafer

He’s Grabbed His Balls, Swung His Wood and Got the Birdie, But He’s Not Even on the Course

• ‘Playing golf’ is the most popular excuse that cheating men tell their wives when they’re off to meet their mistress’ (34%)
• Other popular excuses include ‘business meetings / working late’ (27%) and ‘going to the pub with mates’ (13%).
• Golf provides the perfect cover, as it can often take several hours, can be played on a regular basis without raising suspicion, and is also relatively weather-proof
• The results come from IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity

Telling your wife that you’re off for a round of golf is riddled with sultry and salacious undertones, a new study has revealed.

According to IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity, telling your wife that you’re going for a few rounds of golf with your friends is the most popular excuse adulterers use when sneaking out to meet their mistress’.

In a survey of over 2,000 men, 34% said that they told their wife they were going to play 18 holes as a cover for their affair. Other popular excuses include ‘business meetings / working late’ (27%), ‘going to the pub with mates’ (13%), ‘going to the gym’ (5%) and ‘shopping for groceries’ (4%).

It’s a result that may surprise many, but Christian Grant, the site’s spokesperson, explains why it shouldn’t:

“Saying that you’re going for a round of golf ticks all the boxes. Firstly, it covers you for several hours, especially if you’re playing 18 holes and not 9.

It’s also something you can do fairly consistently without raising too much suspicion.

For example, your wife would eventually begin to question you if you kept citing business meetings as your excuse – how many business meetings can someone realistically have, and after work no less?

Thirdly, with golf a popular hobby among men, it’s much more likely that your wife will respect your space, especially if it’s your sole hobby – they’re far less likely to question their husband playing a sport than, say, going to the pub.

And, finally, it’s also relatively weather-proof, as driving ranges still operate even when the weather is a little sour.

I’d also be remiss if I didn’t mention Tiger Woods, one of the most infamous cheating celebrities of all time and a legend of the sport. We don’t want to say he’s had an influence, but at the same time, to say that he hasn’t had some sort of impact, however small, is just simply not true.”

Tony, 44, added:

“It doesn’t require much effort, really. But if you do want to go the extra mile, you can dish out on some relatively low-cost golf clubs, and maybe some gloves too, and that adds enough believability to your story that you’ve nothing to worry about.

I don’t really know anything about golf, but neither does my wife, so if she ever asks me how it went, I can usually improvise my way through it by using some basic golf terminology; ‘it was good, but the bogey on hole 15 cost me the victory,’ – that usually does the trick.”

The full list of excuses men use to meet their mistress’:

1. Playing Golf (34%)

2. Business Meetings / Working Late (27%)

3. Other (17%)

4. Going to the Pub (13%)

5. Going to the Gym (5%)

6. Shopping for Groceries (4%)

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

For comments, case-studies or more information, contact Christian Grant:

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk
Office: 020 7729 6098
Twitter: @cheatsafer

What do Jay Z, Low Wages and an Early Marriage Have In Common? They’re Wrecking Young People’s Marriages

• There has been a huge increase in the number of young people aged 21-30 having affairs, with that age group the least faithful they have ever been
• 44% of affair-seekers aged 21-30 chose not to divorce because of the financial implications, while 50% were worried about what a divorce might mean for their children
• Those factors have driven them to affairs, with IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people, witnessing a 20% year-on-year increase in the amount of people aged 21-30 signing up to the site
• Almost three quarters (71%) felt that they could have an affair and get away with it; celebrity culture is partly to blame, as many celebrities, like Jay Z, have affairs but still thrive in their careers and remain popular among their fans
• Of over 1,000 peopled aged 21-30 who were surveyed, 78% cited a premature marriage as the main cause for the breakdown of their marriage

More and more young people are having affairs, so says a new survey. IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity, has reported a 20% increase year-on-year in the amount of people aged 21-30 signing up to the site.

Of over 1,000 young people who were surveyed, an overwhelming 78% admitted they had “married too young” and have since sought to have an affair as a result of their relationship with their partner breaking down.

The site’s spokesperson, Christian Grant, explains:

“There is more and more pressure on young people to have the perfect relationship. We live in a connected world whereby we’re constantly seeing the smiling faces of our friends and family, be it on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram – you name it – and we can’t help but compare our lives to theirs.

It’s a classic case of keeping up with the Jones’, and that mentality means people make rash decisions, one of them being a premature marriage.”

But if a marriage is turning sour, wouldn’t the simple answer be to get a divorce?

Well, of the 1,000 affair-seekers aged 21-30 who were surveyed, 44% were too scared to divorce because of the financial implications, while 50% said that they didn’t want a divorce for the sake of their children.

As Grant explains, a divorce isn’t always a viable option:

“People of all ages come to a site like IllicitEncounters because they’re worried about divorce. They don’t want to put their kids through it, for one, but they’re also worried about what it’ll mean for their finances. Young people share those exact same issues, except they’re much worse.

On average, they’re on lower wages than those 10, 20 or 30 years older than them; they’ve got student loans to pay off… they’re only just managing as it is, so the idea of a divorce might be nice, but it’s not necessarily realistic, from a financial perspective if nothing else.”

You’ve also got to factor in celebrity culture. How many celebrities cheat, then aren’t really held to task? Whether it’s movie stars like Kristen Stewart or Ben Affleck, musicians like Jay Z, and everything in between – these celebrities have affairs and aren’t exactly punished for it – quite the opposite in fact. They still thrive in their careers, and they’re still loved by their fans, so it’s easy for anyone to look at that and think, ‘well, what have I got to lose?”

This corroborates with the results from the site’s survey, as almost three quarters (71%) felt that they could have an affair and get away with it.

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

For comments, case-studies or more information, contact Christian Grant:

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk
Office: 020 7729 6098
Twitter: @cheatsafer

Beware of the figure 9 – it is the danger age for affairs, according to a new study

* People are more likely to cheat in the last year of a decade – when they are 19, 29, 39, 49 and 59;
* The most dangerous age of all for cheating is 39 – the same age as stars Orlando Bloom, Chris Martin and Liv Tyler;
* The last year of a decade is seen a watershed in people’s lives – and they are more likely to look for fresh excitement;
* Most common reason for cheating is a lack of excitement in the bedroom at home;
* Results come from a new study of 1,000 people by IllicitEncounters.com, Britain’s leading dating website for married people

People are more likely to cheat on their partners in the last year of a decade of their lives, according to new study.
It means that men or women are more likely to be unfaithful when they are 19, 29, 39, 49 or 59.

The last year of decade is seen as a watershed in people’s lives – and they are more likely to assess their options and look for fresh excitement.

The most dangerous age for affairs is 39 – because for many people, life really does begin at 40.

Famous people who are 39 include actors Orlando Bloom and Michael Fassbender, Coldplay singer Chris Martin and actresses Liv Tyler and Sarah Michelle Gellar.

There is no suggestion that any of them have cheated or are planning to cheat, but they have all reached the ‘danger age’ when people are more likely to stray.

The second most popular cheating age is 49.

Famous people who are 49 include Nicole Kidman, former Prime Minister David Cameron, Noel Gallagher from Oasis and Keifer Sutherland from 24.

The third most vulnerable age for cheating is 29.

That is the same age as supermodel Rosie Huntington-Whitely and England goalkeeper Joe Hart.

The results come from a new study of 1,000 people by IllicitEncounters.com, Britain’s leading dating website for married people.
It looked at patterns for cheating and the most common ages when people stray from their partners.

It found that the five top reasons for cheating were: 1 Lack of excitement in the bedroom – 76% 2 An opportunity came along I could not refuse – 54% 3 I was bored with my current partner – 46% 4 I reconnected with an old flame on social media 28% 5 I fancied a change – 22%.

The study found that people were twice as likely to go looking for a new partner online in the last year of a decade than at other times.

There were 18% more profiles in this age category than for other years in the decade.

IllicitEncounters.com spokesman Christian Grant said: “Beware of the figure 9 – it is the
danger age as far affairs are concerned.

“This is applicable to men and women. Both go looking for affairs when they are on the verge of entering a new decade.

“IllicitEncounters.com research shows that some people cheat to get their partner’s attention. If their partner’s a workaholic or unavailable to them, being caught with someone else is a way of saying: ‘Hey, if you love me, pay attention to me!’

“‘Payback cheating’ is also common. If you’ve cheated in the past or done something else to hurt your partner, they might retaliate to get even.”

IllicitEncounters.com, the leading authority on infidelity, has more than one million registered members in the UK.

Its subscriptions rise by 25% over the summer months as more people look for fun in the sun.
Top five reasons for having an affair

1 Lack of excitement in the bedroom at home – 76%
2 An opportunity came along I could not refuse – 54%
3 I was bored with my current partner – 46%
4 I reconnected with an old flame on social media – 28%
5 I fancied a change – 22%.

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

For comments, case-studies or more information, contact Christian Grant:

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk
Office: 020 7729 6098
Twitter: @cheatsafer

Why You’ll Never Look At Brown Rice, Sweet Potatoes and Edamame the Same Way Again

• Over half of male adulterers are adopting a superfood-heavy diet in order to get fit and ‘woo’ someone outside of their marriage
• The most popular superfoods are brown rice (15%), sweet potatoes (13%) and edamame (12%)
• Marks & Spencer (33%) and Waitrose (27%) are the most popular supermarkets of choice for male adulterers in search of superfoods
• The survey of over 1,000 people is brought to you by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity

Is your husband buying walnuts because he’s being led by his nuts? A new survey seems to suggest that that’s the case.

The survey of over 1,000 male adulterers on IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity, revealed that over half (53%) are stocking up on superfoods in their bid to get fit to ‘woo’ a new person outside of their marriage.

The most popular superfoods? Brown rice (15%), sweet potatoes (13%), and edamame (12%), as the site’s spokesman, Christian Grant, explains:

“With superfoods all the rage these days, a deluges of people are changing their diet in an attempt to get fit and healthy, but for adulterers, you can’t help but question the motives.

For all of us, when there’s a new man or lady that’s caught your eye, it’s only natural to be motivated to do whatever you can to attract their attention, and improving our physical appearance is normally priority number one.

With a lot of the members on IllicitEncounters.com in long-term marriages, you could say that they’ve rested on their laurels a little bit, but that all changes when they find someone new and the whole dating process begins anew.

So if your partner has developed a sudden and inexplicable urge for asparagus, spinach or brown rice, to name but a few foods, alarm bells should be ringing.”

Theo, a 38-year-old life coach from London, added:

“I didn’t even know what canola oil was two weeks ago, but now my cupboards are stocked full of the stuff. Luckily my wife is none the wiser – she’s actually pleased that I’m getting in shape – so it’s worked out quite well!”

Respondents were also asked for their supermarket of choice and, perhaps unsurprisingly, it was Marks & Spencer (33%) and Waitrose (27%), who’ve a reputation for being more premium than the rest of their competitors, who came in 1st and 2nd place respectively.

The least popular supermarkets were ASDA (8%), ALDI (5%) and LIDL (4%), as Grant explains:

“When you’re working to better yourself to impress someone else, you don’t cut corners – you want to look your best, and that’s reflected in the places in which you shop.”

Top 10 Superfoods Among Adulterers

1. Other (29%)
2. Brown Rice (15%)
3. Sweet Potatoes (13%)
4. Edamame (12%)
5. Spinach (11%)
6. Scallops (7%)
7. Asparagus (5%)
8. Salmon (3%)
9. Walnuts (2%)
10. Canola Oil (2%)
11. Brussels Sprouts (1%)

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

For comments, case-studies or more information, contact Christian Grant:

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk
Office: 020 7729 6098
Twitter: @cheatsafer