Your Spouse Splashing Out On Lavish Gifts Could Be A Sign That They’re Cheating On You

  • 85% of adulterers admit to spending big on Christmas.
  • Two out of five men opt for designer jewellery as the top gift for women.
  • Top gift for men is new gadgets or tech.
  • Only 49% of adulterers get their extramarital partner a gift.
  • Results come from recent survey of 1000 adulterers on IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading married-dating website


Flashy gifts are nice to receive, but they could be a sign that your partner is cheating on you. A staggering 85% of cheaters admit to spending big on Christmas because they feel guilty for their affair. Only 3% of adulterers go all out on expensive gifts because they enjoy it.

A recent survey conducted with 1000 members of married-dating website IllicitEncounters.com has revealed the most popular gifts bought by cheaters this festive season.

Designer jewellery topped the list of most popular items bought by cheating husbands, followed by designer fragrances, and then designer fashion.

Cheating wives favoured new gadgets, with one in three getting their spouse a new tech toy. Designer brand underwear also made the list with 20% indicating they bought their husbands posh briefs.

A little under half of those who responded to the survey will get their extramarital partner a gift this year as well.

Top Gifts Given by Men

  1. Jewellery (36%)
  2. Fragrances (14%)
  3. Designer Fashion (11%)
  4. Handbags/Accessories (10%)
  5. Gadgets/Tech (8%)
  6. Gifts under £100 (7%)
  7. Spa/Beauty gifts (6%)
  8. Other (8%)


Top Gifts Given by Women

  1. Gadgets/Tech (33%)
  2. Designer Underwear (20%)
  3. Designer Clothing (18%)
  4. Grooming Gifts (10%)
  5. Fragrances (9%)
  6. Jewellery (3%)
  7. Gifts under £100 (2%)
  8. Other (5%)


Robert, 58 from Norwich, a member of IllicitEncounters.com told us, “I do love my wife and getting her something really nice for Christmas makes me feel a bit better about going behind her back to get my thrills.”


Spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com Christian Grant explains:

“We wanted to know what kind of gifts cheaters favour this festive season and it turns out that guilty pockets are quite deep.”

“Both men and women spend big this season, so if your spouse has got you something you weren’t expecting and they’ve really splashed out, it might be time to dig a little deeper into what they are doing with their spare time.”

 

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1.2 million genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 14 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk
Tel: 020 7729 6098
Twitter: @cheatsafer

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A third of people have cheated on a partner at Christmas – and the works party is where an affair is most likely to start, according to a new survey

* Two-thirds said they were unfaithful because they had drunk alcohol and things had gone too far;
* Christmas is the peak period of the year for cheating – ahead of the summer holidays and New Year;
* Less than third of cheats (32%) said they had regretted their fling – suggesting they were likely to do it again;
* Results are from a new survey of 1,000 people by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating site for married people

A third of people have cheated on a partner at Christmas, according to a new survey.

It is the most popular time of the year for a new affair to start ahead of the summer holidays and the New Year.

The office Christmas party is the most likely place for a fling to happen with more than half of respondents (57%) who had been unfaithful saying it was with a work colleague.

Two-thirds of cheats (68%) said they were unfaithful because they had drunk alcohol and things had gone too far as a result.

In just over half of cases (54%), the affair did not extend beyond the works party but 46% carried on seeing their colleague after the festive season.

The results are from a new survey of 1,000 people by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating site for married people.


Slightly more women (35%) than men (31%) have betrayed a partner at Christmas time.

The survey found that 85% of people felt more passionate in the run-up to Christmas because they were excited by the holidays and they were partying more with friends and colleagues.

Most affairs happened in the three week period between December 3rd and Christmas Eve – the key period for works parties before the holidays start and people stay at home with their families.

Three-quarters of people (74%) who cheated with a work colleague admitted flirting with them in the run-up to the party.

Seven out of ten cheats (71%) concealed the affair from their colleagues but 29% made no secret of the fact that they had been unfaithful – mainly because they were drunk.

Less than a third of cheats (32%) said they had regretted their fling – suggesting they were likely to do it again.

Only one in ten Christmas flings (11%) are discovered by the betrayed partner – so nearly all cheats get away with their indiscretion.

IllicitEncounters.com spokesman Christian Grant said: “Beware of the Christmas party season because it is a hotbed for affairs.”

“Sexual tensions which have been bubbling up over the course of the working year finally explode due to drink and the opportunity to grab a kiss under the mistletoe.”

“The good news for cheats is that they are very unlikely to get caught out if they start an affair at this time of year, though they are advised not to flaunt their new love in front of their colleagues.”

More than 1 million people have registered with IllicitEncounters.com since it started – and thousands of people begin new affairs each week. The peak time for new registrations is the first two weeks of January when disgruntled spouses return to work after the holidays realising their relationship is unfulfilling and seek someone new.

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1.2 million genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 14 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk
Tel: 020 7729 6098
Twitter: @cheatsafer

 

This Friday Is ‘Unfaithful Friday’, The Most Popular Day Of Winter For Affairs

  • 80% of adulterers surveyed see their extramarital partner on Unfaithful Friday.
  • Of those polled 45% have booked a getaway with their lover.
  • 35% of respondents will spend the whole weekend with their lover.
  • Taking a business trip is the most common excuse used with 40% using work as a cover
  • Activity on married-dating website IllicitEncounters.com goes up 30% for the week leading up to Unfaithful Friday.

Cheating peaks on the UK’s most popular day of winter for infidelity. This year ‘Unfaithful Friday’ falls on the 23rd of November, when adulterers plan to have their last illicit encounter of 2018 with their extramarital lover.

A staggering 8 out of 10 adulterers surveyed indicated that they have plans to meet up with their mistress or histress on Unfaithful Friday. More cheaters meet up on this day than on any other day of winter. For many adulterers, Unfaithful Friday is the last time they will be able to see their secret lovers this year, before the festive period fills their time with family, and other obligations that run into the new year.

Almost half of the respondents have booked the evening away, with romantic city breaks being the most popular choice for those cheaters having their final get together of the year. London tops the list of destinations followed by Paris, and finally Edinburgh completes the top 3.

Beware if your partner is talking about a business trip this Friday, 2 out of 5 cheaters polled use this excuse to have overnight stays away from home.Catching up with friends was the second most popular excuse used.

The weekend also sees higher than average numbers with 35% of those surveyed intending to spend the entire weekend with their lover.

Communication activity on the site typically spikes by 30%. More messages are exchanged on IllicitEncounters.com during the week leading up to Unfaithful Friday, than on any other week of the year.

The annual survey was conducted on 1000 members of IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people.

Spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com, Christian Grant explains:

“Over the Christmas period there is very little free time for most of us. It’s hard enough to make time for extramarital activities without having to think about all of the obligations that come with Christmas. It makes sense that so many adulterers choose to have a final romp before being overwhelmed by the season’s obligations.”

“While London might not be the most romantic city in the world, it is hardly surprising that it topped our list of popular destinations. There are hundreds of hotels to suit all tastes and budgets. It’s the business hub of the country making it easy to use work as the perfect cover to spend a night in the city.”

Top Getaway Destinations

  1. London (22%)
  2. Paris (14%)
  3. Edinburgh (12%)
  4. Cornwall (10%)
  5. Lake District (9%)
  6. Coastal Towns (7%)
  7. Brussels (5%)
  8. Berlin (2%)
  9. Other UK (11%)
  10. Other Europe (8%)

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1.2 million genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 14 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk
Tel: 020 7729 6098
Twitter: @cheatsafer

UK’s Sexiest Politicians For 2018 Revealed

  • Boris Johnson and Laura Pidcock top annual list of UK’s sexiest politicians.
  • Theresa May drops from top spot in 2017 to make the list of least sexy in 2018.
  • MEP Nigel Farage voted as least desirable male UK politician.
  • DUP’s Arlene Foster crowned as least beddable female politician.
  • Labour beat Conservative as sexiest overall party.
  • Results come from survey conducted on 3000 members of dating website IllicitEncounters.com.

Conservative MP and former Foreign Secretary, Boris Johnson has come out on top of an annual poll of the sexiest male UK politicians according to a recent survey.

Boris beat fellow Conservative Jeremy Hunt, who dropped to second after taking the top spot in 2017. Conservative MP for Braintree and newcomer to the list, James Cleverly placed third. Overall, Conservatives received a little over half of the total votes for the sexiest male politicians (56%).

Although the top three spots were all occupied by Conservatives, Labour did make it into the top five as well. Labour leader Jeremy Corbyn and  Manchester’s Mayor Andy Burnham took fourth and fifth positions in the poll.

Labour took the lion’s share of the vote in the ladies category with Laura Pidcock, Luciana Berger, and Rebecca Long-Bailey taking the top three positions respectively. Labour ladies accounted for almost 8 out of every 10 ballots cast (79%)

Overall, Labour came out on top taking 58.5% of the total vote share across both male and female categories, compared to a conservative 35% for the Conservatives.

Participants of the survey were asked to vote for the least sexy politicians. Nigel Farage was selected as the least desirable male with one in four votes going to the far right Brexiteer.

Most shocking was Prime Minister Theresa May’s fall from grace, voted as sexiest female politician in 2017, this year she is now in the top three least desirable UK female politicians, below Nicola Sturgeon who placed second and the least sexy female politician in the U.K for 2018, Arlene Foster.

The recent survey was conducted with 3000 adulterers on IllicitEncounters.com, the U.K’s leading dating website for married people and the foremost authority on infidelity

Top Ten Most Sexy Male Politicians                       

  1. Boris Johnson (20%)
  2. Jeremy Hunt (16%)
  3. James Cleverly (15%)
  4. Jeremy Corbyn (14%)
  5. Andy Burnham(11%)
  6. Sadiq Khan (8%)
  7. Zac Goldsmith (5%)
  8. Ed Miliband (5%)
  9. John Bercow (4%)
  10. Other (2%)

 

Top Ten Least Sexy Male Politicians

  1. Nigel Farage (24%)
  2. David Davis  (20%)
  3. Tim Farron (15%)
  4. Vince Cable (11%)
  5. Sajid Javid (8%)
  6. Other (7%)
  7. Michael Gove (6%)
  8. Dennis Skinner (4%)
  9. Philip Hammond (3%)
  10. John McDonnell (2%)

 

Top Ten Most Sexy Female Politicians

  1. Laura Pidcock (21%)
  2. Luciana Berger (19%)
  3. Rebecca Long Bailey (18%)
  4. Caroline Lucas (11%)
  5. Esther McVey (8%)
  6. Baroness Smith of Basildon (6%)
  7. Penny Mordaunt (6%)
  8. Yvette Cooper (5%)
  9. Other (4%)
  10. Shami Chakrabarti (2%)

 

Top Ten Least Sexy Female Politicians

  1. Arlene Foster (28%)
  2. Nicola Sturgeon (19%)
  3. Theresa May (17%)
  4. Nia Griffith (10%)
  5. Amber Rudd (8%)
  6. Diane Abbott (6%)
  7. Angela Rayner (5%)
  8. Other (4%)
  9. Andrea Leadsom (2%)
  10. Emily Thornberry (1%)

 

Spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com Christian Grant explains:

“I love the fact that Boris topped the list of beddable politicians, it is hard to deny the man has a certain oafish charm about him and it clearly resonates with the women who use our site. He is most definitely a character, and personality is a powerful draw.”

“Labour have fared extremely well in the female category and this could be down to the fact that Labour have enjoyed a grassroots lead insurgency of young, passionate, people centred politicians, though a more likely explanation is they have the best looking women. In that regard they would certainly have my vote.”

“It was also a surprise to see Labour leader Jeremy Corbyn in the top 5, there must be something about homemade jam and the Geography teacher look that is making a comeback in the sex appeal department.”

“It seems Theresa May has fallen out of favour with more than just her party, perhaps it was her dodgy deal with the DUP, or her no deal Brexit strategy, whatever the case may be she is now in the top three least desirable, almost as shocking a result as the last General Election. The Prime Minister just can’t seem to catch a break of late.”

 

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 14 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Tel: 020 7729 6098

The Cat Is Out Of The Bag: Feline Owners Are More Likely To Cheat

  • A recent survey of 1000 female members of IllicitEncounters.com has shown the link between pet ownership and infidelity.
  • 27% of those surveyed are cat owners making them the group that are most likely to cheat.
  • Only 12% of members surveyed have a dog in their home, suggesting they, like their pets, are the most loyal.
  • Surprisingly bird owners made up 16% of those surveyed, a high percentage for such small portion of the population

Could the pet your partner has be an indicator that they are going to cheat on you? A recent survey conducted by IllicitEncounters.com has revealed that cat owners are almost 3 times more likely to cheat than dog owners.

A little over 1 in 4 people surveyed had at least one feline friend in their household, compared to roughly 1 in 10 having a dog. This is surprising because dogs are known to be the U.K’s most prolific pet, with almost half of the British population having a dog in their home. Comparatively only 25% of the population has a cat in their home.

Beware if your partner keeps a budgie as bird owners also came back with a higher than expected result of 16% despite far fewer households having them as pets.

Christian Grant explains:

“There is an ongoing debate as to whether our cats even like us, they often will go to where the food is best, their loyalty being to their own satisfaction. They also appear to have a general air of detachment about them. It’s interesting to see the behavioural patterns we recognise in pets reflected in their owners, cats are known for being wanderers of the night, and it would appear that their owners are too”

  1. Cat (27%)
  2. Birds (16%)
  3. Other/no pet (16%)
  4. Hamster/Gerbil (15%)
  5. Reptile (14%)
  6. Dog (12%)

 

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 14 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Tel: 020 7729 6098

Twitter: @cheatsafer

Cheating Soars as Students Fly The Nest

  • Married-dating website IllicitEncounters.com registrations up by 30% year on year
  • Survey shows over 50% of members experiencing empty nest syndrome.
  • Housewives lead the signup surge

Business is booming as the back to school period proves once again to be one of the busiest seasons for adulterers according to the UK’s leading dating website for married people, IllicitEncounters.com

Signups at IllicitEncounters.com have increased by 30% against the same period last year.

Good news for the men, IllicitEncounters.com male members reap the benefits of the empty nest, hungry housewife surge as female users spike on the site. Stay at home mums have taken the lead from teachers who top the summer sign-up period. This has been the best year by far on record.

Empty nest syndrome is the term used to describe feeling of sadness parents have when their children leave home, and the latest survey of 2000 members reveals 53% of users polled have experienced empty nest syndrome. Of all members polled roughly 20% claim it is what initially drove them to being unfaithful. That is just over a quarter of a million genuine users. We’ve included the top 5 Cities where signups have gone up the most.

Top 5 Cities by signup

  1. Oxford– topping the Infidelity Index for 2018 it’s no surprise that Oxford has made the top of the list for signup as well.
  2. Gloucester– picturesque, rural, and saucy. Certainly one to watch for the 2019 Infidelity Index.
  3. London– generally low on the index, but with a population of just over 8 million people it is a city with volume on its side.
  4. Nottingham– the heart of England wants what the heart of England wants! When Robin Hood is away, Maid Marion will play.
  5. Plymouth– the Mayflower has set sail for the new world, whatever shall the wives left behind do with themselves? Sign up to IllicitEncounters.com apparently.

Local new member Janice, 55 told us: “I was sitting in my car in the drive outside my house after spending a frantic weekend moving my youngest son to his new accommodation for uni, dreading going inside. I realised that after 30 years of raising my children  that my husband and I were essentially comfortable strangers, and that for the better part of a decade there had been no physical intimacy between us. I was a little apprehensive about signing up to IllicitEncounters but what I found was an open and caring community of people who are going through exactly the same thing as me. I went on a date for the first time in years, and felt desirable, it was like being a teenager again.”

IllicitEncounters.com spokesperson Christian Grant explains:

“This period is a little like a passing of the torch from the teachers who had their summer of love to the housewives who now find themselves with considerably less responsibility and a well earned amount of free time.”

“Empty nest syndrome is widely understood and well documented. Most married couples find that once the frantic grind of raising children and maintaining a home is over the only thing they have in common is a mortgage and newfound energy, with no outlet.”

“The real surprise for us has been the unexpected increase in signups, our expectations have been thoroughly exceeded which is great for us, and great for our members.”

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Tel: 020 7729 6098

Twitter: @cheatsafer

New Poll Reveals the Real Reasons Women Cheat

  • Results are from a new survey of 2,000 female adulterers by IllicitEncounters.com
  • The majority of women polled are seeking an adventure, with 41% stating that is the sole reason they stray from their marriages.
  • Lack of sex at home ranked second with 34% of respondents claiming they had no physical relationship with their husbands.
  • 19% of the women polled stated that they feel unappreciated at home.
  • 98% of women having an affair do not want to leave their partner.
  • One third of women polled have no physical relationship at home.

Have you ever been curious to know what could lead your lady astray? More women than ever are cheating, or willing to admit that they are cheating. Why the sudden shift in attitude toward infidelity?

The summer poll of 2,000 women who use IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people has given an insight into some of the key factors and reasons why women cheat.

Is your wife living the same routine day in and day out? You could be complicit in creating the perfect environment to push her into a secret lovers arms. Of the responders almost half (41%) of the women polled were eager to break their routine and have an exciting extramarital adventure.

The curse of bedroom boredom, one in three reported having no physical relationship at home, and long for physical intimacy. This extends beyond just sex, the survey found that typically, women who fell into this category indicated in their profiles a desire for nonsexual physical fulfilment as well, for example cuddling and holding hands.

Doing the dishes once a week isn’t going to cut it anymore, just under a fifth (19%) of women feel unappreciated at home.

Most shocking was the revelation that  98% of the women indicated that they did not wish to leave their partner, with many of them claiming to have otherwise good relationships with their husbands!

Top reasons women cheat – ranked

  1. I want some adventure in my life (41%)
  2. I have no physical relationship at home (34%)
  3. I don’t feel appreciated at home (19%)
  4. I want to leave my partner (2%)
  5. I don’t want a full time relationship (2%)
  6. I was living with a gay husband (1%)
  7. My husband is disabled (1%)

Experienced adulteress Samantha James (56) told us: “After having kids, and making a home, and doing all the things I was supposed to do, I felt stagnant, living as though I was already dead. I needed something that was just for me, new and exciting and that’s what I got from my first affair, and every one after.”

Illicit Encounters spokesperson Christian Grant explains:

“The data we’ve seen from this poll has been very consistent, in today’s age women are feeling more entitled to behaviour that has long been accepted as a male prerogative.”

“ What has been very surprising is how many women say they are still very much in love with their husbands, but their needs in some way or another are not being met in their marriage”

“Affairs are no longer viewed as some seedy transgression, but as a creative act, a protest against what for many women is an oppressive and suffocating institution.”

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Tel: 020 7729 6098

Twitter: @cheatsafer

It’s Frisky Friday – peak day of the year for affairs is today (Friday, July 20), according to a new study

* Frisky Friday sees a 70% rise in extra-marital affairs as adulterers grab one last chance to see their lovers before the summer getaway;

* We cheat more when the weather is hot – because we are wearing less and long summer nights present more opportunities for mischief;

* The first three weeks of July are the busiest time of the year for affairs;

* Second most popular month for affairs is June;

* Other peaks are in September and January as cheats return to their lovers after long holidays with their family

 

Britons cheat more when the weather is hot – and the peak day for affairs is today (Fri, July 20) as the schools break up for the summer holidays, according to a new study.

The whole week before the big summer getaway is the busiest of the year for extra-marital activity.

And it reaches its peak on ‘Frisky Friday’ with adulterers grabbing one last chance to see their lovers before going away with their families.

The first three weeks of July see a 25% rise in activity in extra-marital dating sites.

This shoots up to 54% higher than normal in the third week with a 70% rise on Frisky Friday – the busiest single day of the year for affairs.

Flaming June is appropriately named because it is the second busiest month for cheating.

The third most popular month is September, as cheats hook up with lovers again after going away with their families.

The fourth most popular month is January, as adulterers return to their secret partners after spending the Christmas break with their families.

The results are revealed in a new survey of 1,000 people IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating website for married people.

It found that 82% of adulterers stay in touch with lovers while they are on holiday with their families.

The most popular method is by text, followed by phone chats, FaceTiming, email and Skype.

And 62% of cheats hook up with their lovers within a week of returning home.

One in ten cheats 11% see their lovers while they are away with their families – either by arranging to go to nearby destinations or holidaying nearer home.

Four out of ten adulterers (42%) go on two summer holidays – one with their families and one with their lover,  most commonly using work commitments to hide their secret break.

The most popular destinations where adulterers go on holiday are Spain, followed by Italy, America, Thailand and France.

IllicitEncounters.com spokesman Christian Grant said: “We are experiencing the busiest three weeks for cheating as we head towards the big summer getaway.

“Adulterers are grabbing one last chance to have a bit of fun before they head off for two weeks away with their families.

“Cheating peaks this Friday when those having affairs can excuse their absence from home by saying they are catching up with work colleagues before the holidays.

“All IllicitEncounters.com research shows that the summer months are an incredibly busy time for affairs.

“The sun makes us more optimistic and open for adventure. We are all wearing a lot less, too, and that makes people more likely to cheat.

“The long nights mean we are more likely to be outside socialising and meeting new people.”

IllicitEncounters.com, the leading authority on infidelity, has more than 1 million registered members in the UK.

Its subscriptions rise by 25% over the summer months as more people look for fun in the sun.

 

Top months for cheating

1. July

2. June

3. September

4. January

5. May

6. August

7. March

8. October

9. December

10. November

11. February

12. April

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Tel: 020 7729 6098

Twitter: @cheatsafer

Three strikes and you’re out – love cheats typically have three affairs before they are caught out by their partners, according to a new survey

* It takes an average of four years for adultery to be exposed – most commonly through stray phone messages;

* 86% of people who cheat on their spouses after marriage have already slept with another love before tying the knot;

* Results are from a new survey of 1,000 adulterers by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating site for married people

Most love cheats have three affairs before their cheating is discovered by their partners, according to a new survey.

And it takes an average of four years for their adultery to be exposed – most commonly through their partner reading their phone messages.

The vast majority of people (86%) who cheat on their spouses after marriage have already slept with another lover before tying the knot.

The results are from a new survey of 1,000 adulterers by IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s leading dating site for married people.

It discovered clear patterns of behaviour suggesting that if a person is unfaithful early on in a relationship they will continue to seek affairs after marriage.

Two-thirds of adulterers (63%) have been caught out by their partners at some point in their marriage.

But this lead to the break-up of the relationship in only 15% of cases.

Most people are prepared to forgive one sexual liaison if other elements of their relationship with their partner are strong.

Cheats tend to be extremely careful not to get caught with a lover straight after they have tied the knot.

Just one in 10 adulterers (11%) were caught during their first affair after matrimony and one in eight (12%) during their second.

The most common time for an affair to be exposed was during the third affair with one in five (21%) saying this was when they were caught out.

The main reason was that adulterers tend to get more brazen the longer they get away with cheating and they are not as careful at covering their tracks.

The most common ways cheats are caught out are – partner reading phone messages (39%), partner reading emails (22%), being caught lying about their whereabouts (20%), being spotted out with a lover (14%), being informed on by a family friend (5%).

IllicitEncounters.com spokesman Christian Grant said: “What this new research shows is that a leopard never changes their spots.

“If your partner is unfaithful to you before tying the knot that pattern of cheating will continue after matrimony.

“Cheats need to be extra careful around the time of their third affair because this is when they are most likely to get caught – probably because they have got over-confident and give too many clues away to their partner who will be getting suspicious.

“It is interesting that an affair leads to a break-up in only 15% of cases.

“Most people are prepared to forgive an affair if the fundamentals of a relationship are strong and we have a lot of members at IllicitEncounters.com who have permission to have affairs because their partner has gone off sex.

“As a nation, we are becoming a lot more like the French who often see an extra-marital affair not as a reason for divorce but the natural reaction to a relationship going stale.”

Every week, around 20,000 people in the UK are having affairs on IllicitEncounters.com.

More than one million people have registered with the site since it started in 2003 and the highest proportion of members are wealthy people in London and the Home Counties.

Top 5 ways affairs are discovered

1 Phone messages to lover discovered by partner (39%)

2 Emails to lover discovered by partner (22%)

3 Caught lying about whereabouts (20%)

4 Being spotted out with lover 14%)

5 informed on by friend of partner (5%)

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Tel: 020 7729 6098

Twitter: @cheatsafer

‘I slept with married men when I was hit with a pre-menopausal libido surge so intense I became unhinged if I didn’t get sexual release several times a day:’ extraordinary confession of the middle-aged writer who sought men on an extra-marital dating site

* Karin Jones desired sex many times a day after a ‘tsunami’ of events, including separation from her husband of 23 years;

* Jones, relationships editor at Erotic Review magazine, had a series of affairs with married men who wanted sex but didn’t want to disrupt their family lives;

* She says finding married lovers in London was easy – ‘like walking into a sweet shop with a pocket full of cash.’

* Here she writes about the ‘wonderful’ sex she enjoyed meeting men on IllicitEncounters.com – and how some of her lovers had been given permission by their wives to have affairs.

 

At 49, I experienced a tsunami of disrupting events: I separated from my husband of 23 years, began my slide into pre-menopause, and experienced a libido surge so intense I became unhinged if I didn’t get sexual release several times a day. This kind of horniness happens to some of us midlife women, though it’s not getting talked about much. We’re not told by our doctors to expect aching bouts of desire to accompany our hot flashes in the run-up to menopause. Depending upon one’s circumstances, this surge can be a blessing or a burden. If you have someone who is willing to have sex with you three times a day (or more) you might be fine. If not, you’ll need to get creative.  

 

I went through this experience, which lasted over a year, when I lived in the UK. I didn’t want a relationship; I was too wrapped up with grieving my marriage and taking care of my young son. But my body wasn’t letting me off the hook when it came to sex. Fortunately, I lived near London. Finding men to have sex with was like walking into a sweet shop with a pocket full of cash. I set up profiles on Tinder and OKCupid, but as a woman wanting only casual sex, the sheer volume of questionable men on those sites was intimidating. The website that offered me the clearest route to my no-strings requirements was IllicitEncounters.com, a dating site for married people.

 

Unlike other dating websites, I found a “cheaters” site to be populated by men who were more straightforward and unselfconscious about their intent. It was understood that this was about sex, not finding a relationship. It was about companionship for only a few hours. It was almost universally about experiencing a level of intimacy we weren’t getting at home. But all the men I encountered there insisted they didn’t want to disrupt their family lives.

 

Anyone on a site like IllicitEncounters is there because they don’t want to be condemned for seeking out what they need; sex. And anyone who insists we can live without sex is welcome to do so. But I can’t do it. Clearly, a lot of us can’t. Whether we can be honest with our spouses about sex is everyone’s own decision.

 

I learned that dating sites for married people were places to interact with potential partners without the harassment and judgement they received on other sites from those who view the issue of infidelity as black and white. I see the many shades of grey around the topic. And because I was so randy, I couldn’t imagine trying to jump through the hoops of another person’s apprehensions, had I been married. Even so, after I accepted a man’s request for a conversation, I vetted each one to be sure they were still committed to their marriage, even if that commitment didn’t include sexual monogamy. I accepted that by sleeping with me they could be putting their marriage at risk. But I was fairly clear-headed with my choices. I only slept with men who told me they loved their wives and were certainly not about to leave them for me. They almost always said they wanted to have sex with their wives, but their wives wouldn’t have sex with them.

 

What I found about dating married men was how edifying our conversations were around why we were doing what we were doing. They weren’t afraid to talk to me about the reasons they were in my bed instead of their own. I pressed them to explain why they weren’t having this conversation with their wives. Most had tried – many times. But it’s such a painful thing to discuss; why a spouse is no longer interested in sex. It became a topic of silence. Which led to hurt, sorrow and even resentment. Which led to IllicitEncounters.

 

One of my most memorable married lovers lived in the Middle East. He described his wife as lovely and beautiful. They had two teen children and he worked as an engineer in the oil industry. He was Oxford educated, articulate with a sonorous voice. He measured the weight of his words and told me the story of his desires. He wanted to explore kink, group sex, bondage.

 

“Does your wife know how you feel?” I asked over the phone before we met.

 

“Yes.” he said. “She even tried some of these things with me. I was so grateful to her for trying. But she’s not comfortable with it. It’s simply not possible for her to enjoy the kind of sex I do.”

 

“Does your wife know you are looking for this outside your marriage?”

 

“We don’t talk about it.” was all he said. And I didn’t press for more.

 

He flew to London for business and we met at a cafe. He was a beautiful, dark-skinned man who was as gentle-looking as his words. Desire wafted between us like the steam coming off our hot drinks. Back in my flat, we propped the full-length mirror against the wall and watched ourselves having sex; his cocoa body against my ivory.

 

What’s was so wonderful about having sex with an unavailable man was the way it took me out of my thinking head and put me squarely in the moment. Without the possibility of our coupling leading to anything that required attention or emotion, I was able to experience the simple pleasure of the act. Sex that was not fraught by an earlier argument, a difficult child or the shared burdens of the domestic upkeep. Just a few hours of unencumbered, uncomplicated bliss. It’s no wonder married women are on these sites as well.

 

Women, though, have more to lose if found out. We women are still judged more harshly for transgressions against our culture. But a lot of us are out to change that. I say women are in more need than men for an escape valve from the constant requests for our attentions. We care for other people’s needs too much, spend a large chunk of our lives with small humans hanging off our bodies, don’t get enough help around the house (and often find it hard to ask for help). A clandestine affair, I imagine, is easy for a woman to justify. Why not find someone to ravish her? Give her pleasure without expectations. Remind her of her appeal as a sexual being, not simply a mother or a wife.

 

Infidelity is not going away. If anything, it will become more prevalent with so many ways to seek relationships online and sites such as IllicitEncounters. What I think we need to do is not disparage the adulterers. We need to talk about the issues around adultery. My experience tells me the asymmetrical desire for sex is at the root of most cheating. It will take courage and patience to have a conversation about this. But surely that’s easier, in the long run, than divorce and breaking up the family.

NOTES TO EDITOR

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s leading dating website for married people and the leading authority on infidelity. With over 1,000,000 genuine UK users since 2004, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2004, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 12 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

We’re always more than happy to talk about IllicitEncounters.com – please contact Christian Grant through the details below – but we’re not willing to speak publicly about SaraHartley.net at this moment in time.

Email: presspr@illicitencounters.co.uk

Tel: 020 7729 6098

Twitter: @cheatsafer