“Darling, I’d rather you Skydive, than tell a lie”

The rush, hit, high, the feeling that keeps you going back for more, over and over again. You’re addicted; even though you know you are risking it all, you can’t control your incessant need for a snapshot of ecstasy. Losing all rational thought, dopamine becomes your common sense enslaving you to focus only on feeding its need for risky reward. As you come back down to earth, you feel still, empty, and the mind is already willing to chance losing everything you have just to satisfy an unforgiving desire to live on a knife-edge, in a heartbeat.

For some the reality of needing this kind of rush is uncontrollable, almost as if the body is powerless to the mind’s desire, regardless of the consequences. Naturally eager and spontaneous, it has been scientifically proven via a study at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York City, that this set of people have fewer dopamine-regulating receptors in their brain, making the chemical hit each time they take a risk, unusually big. There are many ways to fulfill this addiction-type need, with extreme sports at the top of the list. Heli skiing, base-jumping, and skydiving along with big wave surfing and bull running, all hit the spot and achieve the aim of losing yourself to the moment without a second thought to the fact you could seriously injure yourself, or worse. And you needn’t think it’s just adrenaline fueled muscle-head guys that are seeking the ultimate high either, growing numbers of women are more than happy to give the boys a run for their money. This area of the sporting world may have long been dominated by men, but that’s changing fast as women are gaining ground and showing men how it’s done, not only with a high physical ability, but also a complete mental understanding.

Then there is another type of risk taking where the stakes are just as high: having an affair. The need to embrace risk is strikingly similar, all in a haze of adrenalin; you are willing to risk losing the one you love just for the thrill of tasting forbidden fruit. Reputations hang in the balance, the stigma attached to being a cheat, and even breaking up a family are all forgotten in the blink of a lustful eye, pretty selfish all round. But is jumping out of plane or off a building any less selfish? No stigmas for sure, it’s brave, heroic, taking a chance, and ultimately many would comment, “I wouldn’t do it! But as you take the chance and dance with death each time, is that not just as selfish as having an affair? Is it fair on your partner to risk your life each time you hunt down the next big wave? Or is it simply that it is more socially acceptable to risk your life, than have an affair?

We asked our male and female members at Illicitencounters.com if they regularly took part in any extreme sports, and the numbers were surprising high. The top extreme sporting choice for both sexes was Rock Climbing, followed by Heli Skiing and Skydiving for the ladies, while Skydiving took second place for the men and Bull Running came in third. Clearly a multitude of high-risk activities is essential to the equilibrium of the buzz hungry individual.

If something were to happen while engaged in a sport, that would of course be terribly tragic, but more acceptable to the partner of a cheat. “Go out and risk your life darling by all means, just don’t cheat on me, okay?” A little tongue and cheek of course, but reading between the lines, it strikes me that because the act of infidelity reflects badly on all involved, telling your partner to “Go jump off a building!” in a rage, maybe be closer to the truth than we wish to admit.

Top 3 extreme sports for IllicitEncounters.com members.

Men	Women
1. Rock Climbing	1. Rock Climbing
2. Sky Diving	2. Heli Skiing
3. Bull Running	3. Skydiving

The UK’s Leading married dating website IllicitEncounters.com

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s largest and longest running dating site for married people. With over 800,000 members across the UK, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2003, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 10 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

For comments, case-studies or more information contact Mike Taylor:

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Heat Wave Sends Thousands Online Looking For a Summer Fling!

It seems the British weather is not the only thing heating up, whilst the UK is in the midst of a heat wave with temperatures hitting 30-degrees in parts of the country, leading extra-marital dating site IlllictEncounters.com is reporting record numbers of members visiting the site after the sun has set.

The amount of members logging on during the hot summer nights has almost trebled in the last 10 days, and with the unusually high temperatures set to stay until at least the end of the week, the website is predicting the number of people looking for some ‘Summer Lovin’ is set to increase further.

Spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com Rosie Freeman-Jones said “When it’s hot outside you are more likely to feel frisky, the science behind this phenomenon is, as your body is exposed to sunlight, it produces more serotonin and melanocyte stimulating hormone known as MSH, which is linked to an increased sex drive in women, and serotonin just makes you feel happy.”

When questioned female members said they were most likely to look for a extra-marital lover in the summer months as they felt more attractive, tanned and could wear more seductive clothing, men also preferred going out in the summer months and feel less inhibited and more relaxed when outside in the sunshine and the heat.

Statistics released by Illicit Encounters have shown that 72% of Men and 68% of women feel more confident about showing off their bodies during the summer, especially after they have developed a bit of a tan. Men revealed they are more likely to be in shape during the summer months due to participating in sports or just being generally more physical during the week, women revealed that they were more likely to wear sexy underwear and shave their legs during the hotter months.

The sites members have also reported large increases in the number of after work and evening dates that are occurring with the lighter summer evenings producing the perfect time to meet up with their new inamorata or inamorato. The biggest increases in the number of risqué rendezvous were reported in the South West and East of England where temperatures hit their peak.

The UK’s Leading married dating website IllicitEncounters.com

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s largest and longest running dating site for married people. With over 820,000 members across the UK, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2003, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 10 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

For comments, case-studies or more information contact Mike Taylor:

Email: Mike@illicitencounters.co.uk

Mobile: 07824 357512

Office: 020 7953 7167

Twitter: @illicitmike

Who remembers their wedding vows?

Your wedding vows: a central part of the big day itself. A promise between two people shared in front of the ones you love, it is a pivotal point in any marriage ceremony as you start your life together bound together by love. Many couples painstakingly research and create their own vows in order to seal their union with a selection of heartfelt bonds as unique as their relationship. These powerful words will be ingrained on the souls of husband and wife until death do us part. Or so you would think.

It may surprise you to know that loyal couples are in fact the least likely to remember their vows, whereas couples who are unfaithful can recall their vows at will. Rosie Freeman-Jones, spokesperson for IllicitEncounters.com, the UK’s largest website for married people adds “We ran a survey asking our members how many of them could recall their marriage vows and a staggering 86% told us they could. I guess that they can be at the forefront of one’s mind when you are thinking of breaking them, or already have”. So while a wife may frown upon her husband for not being able to recall his vows, thinking he no longer values or cares about them, she should relax safe in the knowledge that his inability to quote them off the cuff more than likely means, he has no need to.

Then there is the age-old topic of adultery. One of the first accusations to be thrown into the ring blame when an infidelity is discovered: “You made a vow to be faithful until death do us part!” But actually, the action of an affair is often a cry for help following a breakdown of the other vows that have been left by the way side and ignored: respect, supporting your spouses goals, for better or worse, honouring, if all of these vows were regularly honoured, surely an affair would be less likely to happen? I’ll play Devil’s advocate and say; affairs are not the cause of a marriage breaking down, they are the effect of a continued lack of attention to the other vows promised and left to rot, the heart lingers for attention elsewhere.

*Sonia, 38 from York and an IllicitEncounters.com member tells us “I meant every one of my vows on my wedding day to my husband, I wouldn’t have said them if I didn’t. I believed we would be together forever, but as we hit our fifth year of marriage we had become completely different people and unable to move forward, we separated shortly after. I am happily dating now and I would marry again, only my vows a second time around would definitely be different, and I see that as a positive learning curve from my first marriage ending.

A lot has changed since their heritage began in the 15th century, and even though vows are often viewed as the glue that holds a marriage together, is ‘Until death do us part’ really part of the modern day marriage ingredient? More and more couples are creating their own vows and steering away from old fashion style vows, but if we take out ‘Thou shall be faithful’ are we expecting to fail, or simply becoming informed and realistic? Whichever way you view it, vows need to up their game if they are to carry the weight of their promise forward into married life and move with the times. Being aware and living in the present is essential to a successful relationship; surely if we allow our vows to stagnate and fall out of sight, we can expect outside influences creep in. Be it an affair, a distance, a lost of interest, I think the answer is to revisit and revise in order to keep them alive.

Renewal of marriage vows is another growing trend, mainly thanks to celebrity endorsement, but the benefits of reassessing the promises given to each other, is a positive way to keep vows current and valid. And lets not forget the daily promise between married couples; another valuable key action to a long lasting happy relationship. Frequently revisiting and revealing their true needs to each other as they evolve as a couple ensures that individual thoughts and feelings remain front and centre of the relationship.

Can something said once years ago really stand the test of time as you and your partner travel through married life together? We are constantly evolving as individuals, changing our tastes, needs, and goals along the way: we need to revisit our vows in the same way. You wouldn’t keep the same CV for years without updating your skills and experience, so surely your marriage vows deserve the same nurturing approach. Being proactive, rather than reactive once the damage is done is more than often too little too late. Better to stay fluid, open, and aware of your vows as you and your partner navigate life together is a key component to marital bliss.

Vows simply need a makeover.

The UK’s Leading married dating website IllicitEncounters.com

IllicitEncounters.com is the UK’s largest and longest running dating site for married people. With over 800,000 members across the UK, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2003, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 10 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

For comments, case-studies or more information contact Mike Taylor:

Email: Mike@illicitencounters.co.uk

Mobile: 07824 357512

Office: 020 7953 7167

Twitter: @illicitmike