That’s an expensive bit on the side…


As the nation settles down to watch the much-loved Christmas movie, Love Actually, during this festive period, one scene will ring especially true to a lot of philandering men.

Emma Thompson’s character discovers that the expensive-looking necklace she spied her husband, Alan Rickman, buying was not actually for her, she’s been given a CD.

Shocking results have revealed that this is far from unusual. Three quarters of men questioned who use the dating website, Illicit Encounters, spend two thirds more on their mistress’ Christmas present than their wives’.

The statistics, taken from a survey of male members, discovered that an average of £173 is splurged on mistress’ presents, compared to £115 spent on their spouse’s gift.

The infidelity prone men were asked to describe the type of Christmas gift they purchased for their mistress and their Mrs and not surprisingly, the majority admitted to choosing something ‘sexy’ or ‘thoughtful’ for their mistress, whilst their wives were not so lucky – most confessing to buying something ‘practical’ or ‘useful for the home’.

Spokesperson for Illicit Encounters, Ava Cooper says: “The difference in the sort of gifts men choose to buy for their mistress and wives mirror the different ways married men often view these two relationships.

“Men often see their mistresses as playing more ‘surface’, decorative roles in their lives, providing sex and affection without much emotional attachment.

“This explains why mistresses receive less practical and more ‘pretty’ gifts.

“On the other side of the coin, a man’s relationship with his wife, after time, becomes less about being pretty and more about being practical – the bigger issues of mortgages and maintenance overtake the seemingly less important things like romance.

“The less a husband thinks of his wife as a sexual being, the more functional and ‘unsexy’ his gifts will become.”

The Christmas season, despite traditionally being a time for family, is when infidelity is rife with over half of members questioned admitting to spending an ‘illicit Christmas Day’ with their lover – most saying today – Friday 20th December is the day they choose to spend together.

One female member, who has been on Illicit Encounters for just over 18 months and said: “I’ve experienced two Christmases while I’ve been on this site and both times my lover and I have escaped to a hotel for the day. I have been given diamond earrings as gifts and am always spoilt by my lovers with expensive underwear and champagne. It’s the day I look forward to most throughout the whole year as I know I’ll be made to feel like a princess.”

According to Illicit Encounters, with over 850,000 members (that’s over 5% of the British public’s married population), Christmas and the New Year is their busiest season, where they experience a rise of 200-300% in activity and new members joining.

The UK’s Leading married dating website is the UK’s largest and longest running dating site for married people. With over 850,000 members across the UK, you’re sure to find your perfect match.

Established in 2003, we have been providing a meeting place for like-minded married and attached people for nearly 10 years. Our members have one thing in common – they are all looking for a little romance outside their current relationship. Whether that’s the occasional bit of flirtatious chat, a regular coffee date, or a full-blown affair, that’s up to them.

For comments, case-studies or more information contact Mike Taylor:


Mobile: 07584 435116

Office: 020 7953 7167

Twitter: @illicitmike

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